Is DH Obstinate Or Am I Over-anxious?

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DH has been a dedicated blood donor all his adult life. He is planning to donate blood to a mobile unit coming to a town near us (we live very remotely) next week.

He is says it will be even safer than going to the supermarket as it's appointment only, so people can't walk in off the street, and he is "sure" the hygiene etc will be super strict.

I am late 60s and asthamtic and haven't been anywhere but the garden since lockdown. He is in his 50s and strong, fit and healthy.

I don't know why I am so anxious about him giving blood when I'm reasonably ok with him doing the supermarket shop. He is very strict about hand washing, sanitising everything, supermarket trolley handle, car door handle, steering wheel etc etc.

He is adamant he is going, and I'm getting more and more worried.

I don't know why I posted, perhaps to vent and perhaps to garner some opinions.

It will be fine. I’m giving blood on Friday and I’m not worried at all, I’m much more freaked about about the weekly shop.

Giving blood is essential.

The hygiene will be extremely good. He's doing a much needed thing.

Good for him.

If he's going to the supermarket - and you're ok wih that - then giving blood in a highly regulated environment is surely less of a risk.

So no, I can't see a reason for your heightened anxiety.

I think you are being a little over anxious, this should definitely be safer than the supermarket. Maybe it's because you see this as unnecessary?

Thank you all. I was influenced by a super-anxious friend who said she would "hit the roof" if her husband was going to do this.

I've taken on board all you have said, and I will calm down and continue with our normal routines.

He's donated hundreds of pints over the decades, so it's very important to him to do this.

I'll worry about something else instead!

Well, it's natural to be anxious in the situation, but I think things get magnified sometimes. He genuinely will be doing something towards "saving lives" by donating, so try to be a bit proud of him instead. Even if he is stubborn .

The blood services are very much asking people to still keep donating blood because without blood donations people will die.

They will take strict precautionary measures and he will be far safer there than in the supermarket.

Your friend needs to get a grip. Sorry but while I can understand the anxiety expecting someone not to continue donating blood has a detrimental impact on people’s lives.I wonder if your friend is one of the people who is annoyed that other treatments have had to be postponed but believes that giving blood shouldn’t happen....

I gave blood on Monday and they were very careful about hygiene, distancing etc. They had cancelled a lot of appointments for the blood types they had reasonable stocks of, so the place wasn't crowded. If they haven't cancelled his then they must really need his blood type.

It will be fine.

Thanks again all.
@AlternativePerspective friend can be very negative, she lives thousands of miles away so I only have to deal with her daily email, but she is a bit of an Eeyore about stuff.