Fighting with my husband (gets bad)

[Mumwith4kidzz]

I have been with my husband for 8 years. We got married when I was 21 and he was 23 (we were very young and stupid :)) Now 8 years and 4 kids later, our marrige is starting to fall apart. I will always love him but when he drinks he can sometimes get a little aggresive. I am also 33 weeks and 3 days pregnant at the moment and when he drinks it scares me because I can't let anything happen to this baby. I need help on how to deal with this. He's not really abusive but he gets verbally agressive a lot and sometimes physical but really only when he drinks.

I know you are saying he isn't really abusive, but he is, any form of aggression towards you, verbal or physical means he is abusive.
Is there any family you have nearby where you can stay for the time being? I understand it's hard with coronavirus, and especially 4 children but at 33 weeks pregnant you need to be in a safe environment. If he assaults you please, please speak with women's aid or the police, domestic violence is known to increase during pregnancy.
Look after yourself x

Oh OP I’m so sorry to hear that, it must be scary at times. Are you okay right now? If you feel in danger PLEASE call the police, they will take it seriously especially with 4 kids and you pregnant.

I think you should try and have a chat with Women’s Aid or one of the other groups listed here www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence. WA you can call or email or there’s a live chat service in the daytime if it’s not an emergency now www.womensaid.org.uk/

@Thekindyoufindinasecondhand @WitchWife
Thank you both for this. Once I have this baby, I will for sure get help. It's really hard trying to be a good mum on top of the pregnancy and my husband you know?

You can speak to your midwife about what's going on at home, and she should signpost you to help and resources you can access.

Does he help look after the DC. How often does he drink and get physical, that is abuse.