What would you do ?

[minimummum]

Been with DP 10 years. He moved In with me 8 year ago. No kids together. He helps with cooking. Nice guy BUT I feel the relationship is not going anyway. He never shows love or feelings. Talks about his future but never mentions me. Since lockdown I have realised I want more from life. I want love, affection, commitment. I want to feel important and I don't. Yet I feel like I am moaning for nothing and as he says (I don't go out a lot or cheat). Aibu to want a loving caring relationship?

No you are definitely not being unreasonable! Life is far too short get out and live it and find someone that will cherish you

YANBU. You want someone who loves you and makes you feel special and not someone who simply doesn't cheat.

If you are not married it should be relatively simple to separate.

@minimummum may I ask if you want to have kids and how old you are?

I have 2 children and don't want anymore. I did when I first met him but he said no. I am 51.

Op... he doesn't cheat, how privileged do you feel? I can't even fathom how this is him being a "good" partner.

My god.

minimummum don't stay just because he doesn't cheat. Is he fun to be around? Dors he make you I feel good about yourself? Is he a good step dad to your kids?

No he makes me feel crap. Never compliments me on anything but quick to tell me if I have a spot or my hair isn't quite right. I can't fault him with my kids. He's good with them as in spending time with them and helping them if they need a puncture fixing on their bikes etc.

End it, you deserve more