Fiancé as ended things and now we stuck in lockdown together

[Tammyk83]

So my partner/fiancé of 8 years as decided that he wants to get his own place and move on.

He as 5 children I have 2 we have daughters who are the same age and literally hate each other. His daughter as ADHD and had caused a lot of problems for my daughter. The things she has done against my daughter are horrific but due to her “problems” they get brushed under the carpet. This as been goin on for years so for the last 12 months my daughter blocked his daughter and refuses to talk to her and because she as done this he is using it as an excuse to leave, he says my daughter should accept the things she as done to her and ignore it due to her problems! I said no she shouldn’t accept it and this is why she behaves the way she does because there’s always an excuse. He is currently ignoring and refusing to talk to my daughter as she doesn’t talk to his. Which I find childish and petty!

Am I being the asshole or is he?

Sounds a good thing! His daughter is a bully and he goes along with it. Don't know what the home situation is but estate agents are doing virtual tours.

I agree, what does it matter who the arsehole is? Likely it’s a mix of you both. It’s irrelevant as it’s over, it’s clearly not worked out, so focus on how to move forward not attributing blame.

Move out ASAP. It’s over. Protect your daughter. It should have been over long ago.

@Tammyk83 I'm sorry there are some assholes commenting when they don't have anything good to say! Commenting on a spelling mistake and then putting a laughing emoji - asshole - and other comments assuming that you have allowed this to happen to your daughter, no where does it state that OP has allowed this! My brother has got ADHD and as kids I would always get the blame for his actions, we now laugh about it as he's nearly 30 and I'm 27 but I understand your frustration, hope everything gets sorted for you x

Why have you just let your daughter endure sustained horrific behaviour from your partner's daughter?

What kind of horrific things?

The bottom line is get rid of asap!
Put your DC first.

Get her into therapy if needed and definitely when things open up get her some self defense classes.

@TanyaLeigh
and other comments assuming that you have allowed this to happen to your daughter, no where does it state that OP has allowed this!

She's been living with him for years. Therefore she hasn't exactly prevented or protected here, has she?