I have always valued my friendships with people, I defend my friends and I’m a loyal person. Even having arguments with my husband because I’ve defended people!! I give my all to my friends and I am someone who they can rely on. Same with their children! No matter what they do, whether they fall out with my children, or anything I love them all unconditionally.
My best friend of 18 years and I had a few cross words, this was over a year ago now. We were inseparable in a lot of ways, I always called her with my news, same for her, we enjoyed nights out, holidays, our children were close even calling them cousins... but over night it all changed. She changed.
She started to become very opinionated, started to get very cross with her son over silly things, making a scene, she would yell at her son asking him why my son is winning him in the running race!!! It was like an unhealthy competition. She kept telling me about how the manager of our sons football team think she is an amazing parent because she is so strict. I started to pick up on little digs she was making, she started to snap at my son a lot telling him not to say things, when he was joking, but it was only in ear shot of other people! I over heard her telling a parent that my son was bullying her son at school. My son is far from perfect, but he is no bully. Her son and my son used to fall out a lot because they were like siblings - so close, but I used to just ignore it, shrug it off. Her son also was to blame, but she was starting to become quite opinionated about my boy... she even went to school to report him and didn’t speak to me about it once. But she spoke to other people about it turning them against my son.
Our boys played for the same football team, and my friend started to become very distant. She would go for coffee with mutual friends and I wasn’t included anymore, I had an operation-couldn’t drive for 4 weeks she didn’t visit me once. She would text and ask how I was but that was as far as it went but it was weird Cos if I saw her she would avoid conversations with me.
I found out she Attended a school reunion without me (which I was invited to) but kept it quiet and went without me.
She carried on creating a clique at football, and the parents all started to treat me differently.
They would all go for a cupa at one of the mums houses and i Wasn’t included.
I discovered that she told them that i didn’t want to go - making out she had invited me!
She has told some personal things to the boys football coach to turn him against me, and my boy.
Then one day after a game my boy was cheeky to the coach and was asked to leave the team... this came out of nowhere but the owner of the club called me and told me that for the past 6 months her son and her have been screen shotting things on social media from my sons accounts and sending them to the manger to cause him to think badly of him (things like him dossing on park smoking with his mates etc)
Things that teenagers do that they don’t want their parents to see.
She didn’t send them to me. She sent them to the coach. If she cared she would have told me my son was smoking wouldn’t she? I feel like she has been trying to get my son kicked out the team but I don’t know why.
When my son was kicked out the team I put a rant on Facebook about how certain people will be happy now they have got what they want, and she blocked me. I get why she blocked me as I did rant, but i never mentioned names - so She obviously recognised herself!!!
She keeps messaging my daughter (who has just had a baby) asking how baby is sending her well wishes.
I just don’t get any of it. It’s like she is playing mind games with me.
I’ve always had her back, her sons back, been loyal and caring - but she seems to want to destroy my boy...
I don’t understand it. 18 years of friendship.