Am I over-thinking?

[Dilemma2020]

I'm heavily pregnant but a friend of mine has found out she's is as well but has decided to terminate the pregnancy for a number of very valid and right reasons. However, she does feel quite sad about going through with it.

I wholeheartedly agree with her choice but now I feel awkward putting anything in mutual group chats or talking about my own pregnancy with her and within our friendship group.

Am I over-thinking this? A few comments were made early in my pregnancy how she wished we could be pregnant together and that she was sad that she hadn't met the right person yet to have a baby.

I don't know what I'm asking...but I guess I feel guilty but a bit annoyed that I've been put in a position where I feel guilty over something that is a very happy time for me.

It's incredibly sad whenever anyone has to terminate a pregnancy, regardless of their reasons. I can imagine it's incredibly tough for her, especially if she does want a baby, just feels it's not the right time for her.

However, they're very different circumstances from say - a friend losing a baby, or being unable to get pregnant. I would just be vigilant and don't post lots and lots of updates about your pregnancy as it's probably still a bit raw for her if it's only just happened. But I wouldn't say you can't discuss it in group chats or within friendship groups, after all it's something huge and important going on in your life and if she's a friend she will be happy for you and want to celebrate this time with you.

You're not BU for feeling sad that you've been put in a position where you can't celebrate it as much as perhaps you'd like, however, put yourself in her shoes and imagine if it was the other way around. You wouldn't want anyone flaunting it in your face, but equally you are well within your rights to discuss it with friends and in front of said friend, just don't go overboard.

I'm always very mindful of anyone's feelings and sometimes to my own detriment so it's very unusual for me to feel like this and to put my own own feelings first.

We very much have a big sister/little sister friendship, she came straight to me when she found out - which is absolutely fine, but I'm thinking was I really the right person to confide to in this circumstance and to continue to confide to? I don't know if she's considered how it would make me feel given my own pregnancy?

She's also asking me a lot of questions about an abortion I had when I was very young - I feel very uncomfortable talking about that at the moment as I've got my own residual guilt which has reared it's head since I fell pregnant with my very much planned for baby. It was a horrible experience and I spent the other evening crying about it to my OH as the days and months after my own abortion hugely effected me.

Again, don't really know what I'm asking for - I guess I'm sound boarding as it's very strange for me to feel like this about a friend.