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Not abusive all the time..

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Jamandbreadd · 28/04/2020 10:28

Been thinking about some poor relationships I’ve had and even with some distance I sometimes find myself missing them/the good. Particularly with one EA ex.
If you were in an abusive relationship what “nice” things did your partner do? Things that stopped you leaving?
My ex cooked for me all the time, was financially generous, could be really affectionate and supportive when he was in the right mood/frame of mind. In other ways he bullied and controlled me, was moody, withheld affection, never helped round the house. I remember finding it so hard to get my head round the two sides of him. I didn’t leave for 2 years despite how shit I felt.

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Menora · 28/04/2020 10:43

Being really affectionate. Telling me all his feelings for me and doing something that was really the bare minimum, but it had become so little he ever did that the bare minimum came across as amazing. Asking if I was ok (but then not listening to the answer). Saying things I wanted to hear

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