Lacks empathy :(

[Nojoke12]

Hi mums I wanted to know if others were in the same boat ?

I’ve been with my boyfriend 10 years nearly , at first it was amazing like any other but these past 5 years have been so emotionally and mentally damaging to me.
I won’t sit here and write the whole story so I will pin point things

.He never tells me he loves me
.If I’m upset he won’t even ask why or try to make me feel better he just avoids me
.He lacks confidence in himself which he then projects on to me and tries to bring me down which I notice and just ignore but he does this everyday , talks about other girls and he would leave me for them I just laugh
.constantly pestering for sex , I’ve got a bladder infection and I’m on antibiotics but he’s still trying to rip my pants off and thinks it’s okay when I’m in pain
.He has no patience for me or the kids but when his out with his mates or round his family he’s a different person
. he constantly belittles and disrespects me all the time , tries to make himself look funny in front of people by being horrible to me

The main issue is the lack of love and intimacy I get from him it’s nil unless he wants something he won’t go out his own way to say he loves me or hug me talk to me it’s horrible feeling neglected and today I’ve sat down and I had cramp in both my legs which I get a lot and he knew I was in a lot of pain and he’s sitting in bed on his phone I’m nearly in tears and trying to massage my legs 20 minutes have gone by and he hasn’t even said a word to me and then he turns his phone off and turns over in bed and goes to sleep I honestly don’t know what to think anymore or feel I’m worn out I need advice some honest advice pleaseee :(

Leave him. Seriously.

This isn't a "lack of empathy" this is straight up abuse. Emotional and sexual abuse. Do you have close family around you?

I understand and empathise at how awfully lonely this must be for you.

To put it bluntly....he is not going to change, he is not suddenly going to become the caring, attentive, loving partner you crave. Wishing for him/things to be different won’t do any good. Take time to be sad and to grieve over what you feel your lacking in your relationship and then decide what do you want to do, do you want to stay and live your life how you live it now with him forever, or do you want to be brave and end it and find a man who will love and care for you as you deserve???

Stay or go....sad as it is those are your choices.

I appreciate all your comments , he isn’t aggressive in anyway , he just acts seriously childish and immature and in situations where I’m serious he isn’t and it’s a vicious circle I do love him he’s an amazing father but he clashes a lot with our oldest who has autism and it makes me think wether he has this too , I understand what your saying I don’t think he will ever change I don’t think he has it in him I honestly don’t know how to go about it I’ve threatened to leave a lot of times I’ve even gone in to a hotel and he laughs it off I’ve gone to my friends for the weekend with the kids and told him he needs to change and he acts like nothing has gone on , I think I’m answering my own questions here it’s just a sad truth that I clearly didn’t want to face :/