I am going to write about this before it actually happens. My DP and I do not argue much I would say every 3 months or so. Its always me who has an issue. I don't like arguing and it's generally around when we see each other. At the moment that's not possible and the space is making me reflect.
The last arguement was about coming over late to see me I said 9 o'clock at night was too late and as we only see each other once during the week (and weekends) I felt 9 was too late to do anything such as the cinema etc.
When an arguement starts he then brings in any grievances related to me which are not a counterbalance to my point of view. Something about my ex DH for example. I'll ask why they it wasn't mentioned at the time rather than keeping these things to himself.
He often ends up walking out and I'm not being abusive or unreasonable there's no swearing or name calling. Then I don't hear from him. It's me that phones him.
I maybe wrong but I think maybe one person in the relationship is more of a gate keeper. He's so nice in many ways but when we fall out it's terrible, I feel awful. I've said you can't expect no conflict ever but then I feel like I'm the villain.
Do you think men are less likely to raise concerns? What is the best approach. I just don't think you can have a relationship where its perfect and not a cross word is said ever. He seems to operate that way.