Mucked up big time

[Haybale35]

I am not looking for any sympathy but I need some advice before I have a complete break down.

A colleague at work started messaging me back in March and it's just blown up into a sordid mess. We are both married (he is older than me and has 3 grown children) and I have a child. He was texting constantly to begin with and we spoke every day but has now started to say oh its unsustainable so I cant always message (we used to message for an hour). He has told me asserts about his marriage, which makes me feel sad for him in a way.

I want to tell him to fuck off basically as he only texts when he wants something (stupidly have sexted and videoed-yes I know bloody stupid) but for some stupid reason I cannot.

There is no way I want to leave my husband, I love him but for caught up with the excitement. To make matters more awkward, we work together.

I just need some advice to what to do. I keep checking my messages to see if he is on line just in case he actually messages. It has really mocked my head up and I am trying not to cry in front of my husband.

OP pm me if you like, I'm in a similar ish situation.

You'd be better off resolving your issues with your husband as the other business is a symptom of that problem. It's not really fair on you that your husband is reluctant to discuss your sex life although clearly it's also not fair that you have been texting someone behind his back. You need to find some way of addressing the problem.

I want to tell him to fuck off basically as he only texts when he wants something (stupidly have sexted and videoed-yes I know bloody stupid) but for some stupid reason I cannot

Yes you can, it's easy. Just press the 'block' button on phone, FB, email etc. All done in a few minutes. If you can move a finger then you can do it.