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14 Year age gap, 2 years together and his kid

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Izzy2015 · 27/04/2020 02:06

have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. He’s 14 years older than me and has a daughter who is 3. His ex has always been spiteful and horrible towards me writing nasty things on fb (she doesn’t even know me) stalking me, and I feel like she’s still in love with my boyfriend. She has in the past sent me some horrible messages. She doesn’t want me to be around his daughter anymore and she is trying to come in between our relationship. This is really upsetting and a lot for me to deal with as I’ve had to put up with all the crap from her and his life for the past 2 years. It’s starting to affect my health it puts me down I feel anxious and overthink things and I’m not happy sad I don’t know what to do anymore? When he goes to pick his daughter up/see her I always feel on edge knowing that he’s there with her and I feel he still really likes him. I put things in my head of what could be happening. I get very down and I’m finding it all so hard and don’t think I can carry on doing this anymore as much as I love himsad he doesn’t understand how I feel and doesn’t see things how I do I tell him it hurts me and he says I understand I won’t do it again.
Please give me some advice

OP posts:
Sushiroller · 27/04/2020 11:27

After your update I'd definately be reviewing my options.
There are so many red flags.

As an aside I am absolutely amazed and slightly in awe she managed to be off galavanting around and having an affair within a few months after giving birth Confused

Grobagsforever · 27/04/2020 11:38

@shushiroller yes I thought that also showed exceptional talent Hmm

Men like the OP's BF make me furious

Bananalanacake · 27/04/2020 11:48

Do you live together. Can't he spend time with his DD without you, or maybe he does, sorry if I misread that.

Kit19 · 27/04/2020 12:03

its not beyond the bounds of possibiolies she cheated on him but i'd be very surprised if she had the time or energy a few months after giving birth....

how long after they split did he meet you? you were 19 then?

Kit19 · 27/04/2020 12:03

possibilities - oh for an edit button

LIZS · 27/04/2020 12:37

At 21 you really do not need to take all this on or get tied down into a toxic relationship. Find someone your own age, who values you and has less history.

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