What do you do if your dp want's no more children, but you do? And does the feeling of wanting another child ever go?

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I'm a regular on here (and some of you "know" me), hence the namechange.

I've got two dc, boy and a girl. Bad preg and labour in both,and still suffering with SPD 2years later. ALso had PND and PTSD after both births.

However, I would love another child, as it feels that there is something "missing" in our family. I have always thought two children is what I wanted, but I feel a third would bring so much into the family.

I know my dh doesn't want any more children, simply because of the labours, he feels as if the labours were horrendous (along with the pregnancy), and doesn't want to see me in that way again, or go through the agony of SPD, or the emotional rollercoaster of PND.

Does this feeling of wanting another child ever go away?

I would never split up with my dh over this, as my relationship with dh is more important than having another child.

TBH, I'm not sure if the feeling is for another baby, or just for a normal labour (this might have been better off somewhere else!).

Thanks

Would you consideran elective section? This might alleviate your dh's fears.

I think it depends HOW important it is to you to have another child. The feeling might go away. I have had 3 c-sections so am not planning any more, but a part of me would like another child. Having said that, I am happy with 3. Accepting no more after ds2 would have been hard though. Labour you would get through, PND I don't have experience of. But I do tell myself it's not just a pregnancy, labour, or baby, it's another human being!