Hi all,
Wondered if I could get your opinion on something. My wife and I are both in our 40's and have been married for 12 years, with no kids. In that time our intimacy has all but fizzled out.
We were intimate together only once last year and so far not at all this year.Whenever I've tried to initiate anything I get a different rejection. But whenever I've tried to talk about it, I normally end up with an upset wife telling me to "go out and find someone worthwhile". Obviously I understand this is a likely to be a defensive type reaction so I try and just calm the conversation down and let the topic go.
On the rare occasion we do talk about it, my wife says she just doesn't want that, and doesn't see it as important. I think you may have gathered by the topic that I feel it is important. It's not as important to me as my marriage and the woman I love, so I've been just resigned to not being intimate with my wife at all. But it's really getting to me lately, as (personal needs aside), I feel like we're becoming more and more like flatmates rather than a married couple. If we avoid any mention of sex we're a great couple, but as soon as it comes up it's nearly always a quick route to a defensive argument.
Before anyone mentions helping with housework etc. I do lots of it and always have.
I'm very much in love with my wife. I just feel like sex once a year is a real bruise on what is otherwise a great partnership.
Any suggestions / opinions / advice would be a real help!
Thanks!
Dale