Is this negging?

[summerrose11]

Might be wrong here but this feels like subtle negging. I'm OLD speaking to someone first thing they say "if you're real ill eat my hat" so I say eat your hat then because I'm real. He carries on with I need proof you are. I say why do you think I'm a catfish he says not enough pics, slightly too good looking and not much bio.
It was the slightly too good looking part I feel is negging. Like oh you're too good looking to be on here but try prove me wrong.
He's running on about how am I suppose to know you're not an old man. I mean I don't think my profile comes across that way. Usually I'd try go out of my way to prove men wrong if they were to neg me. This time I'm annoyed and think nope I'm not doing it.
Do others think this is negging? Or am I being over sensitive?

He just sounds like a dickhead. Block and move on.

You don't need to justify yourself or prove yourself in any way. You owe this person nothing.
He sounds like a dickhead.

Maybe he has been catfished in the past. Either way he either accepts you or he doesn't. I wouldnt waste much more time on him. At least you've found out early hes a twat!

I wouldn't say it's negging. It depends what your picture looks like...sometimes a really professional style pic can come across as not being real....especially if there's just one photo.

That's what they say on Catfish and I must admit, when it's a very good looking person on Catfish the show, they're usually fake.

I think I'd default to taking the piss...like damn you got me, my real name is Harold Higginbottom and there's not much bio as I didn't want to admit that my main hobby is filling my thermos with hot cocoa and going to look at trains. Although I'm friends with the most famous slebs- my best mate from school has a no 1 hit song and just earned £20m for the NHS walking round his garden...
Etc etc
Make some jokes and if he laughs give him a chance. If he doesn't and gets narky that you're making light of it, he's a woman hater, avoid.

power I did have a bit of a joke about it but he seemed pretty adament for me to prove that I wasn't some old man. So then that's when I started getting annoyed

He asked for my social media let him add me then I blocked him. Bit petty but he annoyed me 😂

Op I did actually encounter similar when I was OLD, I had several guys think I was a bot... but none of them were quite as rude about it!

It is a thing with OLD that people create fake profiles, so I wouldn't consider it negging for someone to question if you were real if you're very pretty and have few pics and a short bio with no links to SM, but there's ways to ask about it and his was shitty.

Onwards and upwards!

You don't have to prove anything to him. It'll just be a way to get your phone number, social media or snapchat.

He's just trying to get pics and access to your social media, see if he can drive over your boundaries.

Honestly, if I notice any red flags or feel annoyed, I just stop responding and/or block. Life’s too short for that shit and there are plenty of other men out there. I care about myself too much to spend my precious time replying to dickheads.

And I agree with @Candyfloss99 and @category12. Your boundaries are yours and you don’t have to apologise for or explain them.

What's negging? Off to Google...

Oh! Right! Yes, it sounds like negging. Move on. Next!

He's obviously fishing for info on you, don't give it to him, he's a stranger that deserves nothing more than what's on your profile.

It's not negging, he's trying to be flirty but is clumsy, and probably trying to get pics.

A bit thick, cheeky, pushy and chavvy. Just block IMO.

Not its not negging. Similar effect though. He's trying to throw you off balance and get you to justify yourself.

... or maybe he’s been caught out before. A lot of dating sites are FOC for women so you get kids and dickheads , of both sexes, playing games thinking it’s hilariously funny.

I understand there are catfish people out there. I've encountered 1 or 2 myself but I think these accounts are usually pretty obvious. I'd say my is OK I have 5 pics mixture of me alone and with friends. Few lines in Bio. I honestly think he just wanted my social media. He tried adding me so I had a nose through his profile. Ironic really because he had hardly any pics of himself on there. I've blocked him can't be dealing with men like that.

It’s not negging but it’s weird. Glad you blocked him

I used to get this on OLD, I was accused of using photos off the internet. Err nope that's just what I look like. It's tedious. Maybe he's been burnt before by a catfish but that's not your problem and you still don't have to prove yourself.

He wanted access to social media with a lead-in to getting your phone number without having to build a relationship.

Basically he's trying to run it real fast for whatever reason and this makes him a twunt. Block away

Good that you are on the lookout for negging but I don’t think this really is. He does sound like an idiot though so good that you blocked him. Anyone who wants constant reassurance would piss me off too.
If someone is annoying you at the messages stage there is no point. Especially at the moment when we can’t even meet people to find out what they are really like! Just move on to the next one!

Not negging, just plain and simple boundary pushing. The desire to prove you're real can be quite strong and is an easy way into more intimacy, much quicker than you want. Just block and ignore.

Actually he is playing a game. He is trying to get your social media/phone details without having to put the effort in. He won by gaining access to more pictures.

When I was OD, if men asked for more pictures I would block them. These guys are usually paranoid or insecure.