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Don’t be afraid, don’t be ashamed - domestic abuse safe place

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FabbyChix · 24/04/2020 22:47

4000 domestic abuse cases. Domestic abuse so wildly misunderstood. No one understands why you keep going back, no one gets your mentally so damaged you’ve lost your soul. It can take years for someone to be able to get away.

After six years it took me a year. I wanted to I tried, I couldn’t do it, begged doctors for help, asked my son to pay for therapy. I was manipulated, controlled, coerced, mentally tortured. I could no longer watch a film, read, I no longer looked in the mirror. I went to work just brushing my hair not even looking. A lifetime of always wearing makeup I lost myself.

The end came when I decided that I’d be better off in prison I’d be at peace. I knew If I ever see him again I’d kill him. The next day I blocked him and it was like he never existed. But the trauma of six years, the mental strain cost me my job, then my mental health just sank. So bad couldn’t work. Didn’t think ever would. Left my home all I ever worked for. Moved in with sister. I recovered. No one had ever asked you ok, how are you. I lost my life he lost nothing. Because I took so long to get out people judged me wouldn’t listen anymore.

That’s my story.

If your in a place where your suffering abuse but don’t want to tell anyone in real life talk here. No one will judge you. Tell you what to do. But knowing you have support might give you the strength to walk.

I’d like those who have left and recovered to post their stories too please.

No one understands. I understand. Others will

OP posts:
ByeByeMissAmericanPie · 24/04/2020 22:53

I do sooooo understand. Thanks for posting your story. I’m so glad you made it out.
I’ve been lining up ducks and viewing rental houses until this virus and the lockdown started,.
I was about a week away from leaving,..

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