Feel completely broken

[MelancholyMoper]

Split from a long term relationship recently having just moved closer and thinking that the future was ours.

Both love each other but there is a lot of trouble in my partners life which has drained them emotionally and there is no emotional energy or resilliance left.

My Ex is vindictive and would set out to turn the kids against us and poison the relationship if they found out about us, and this is one of the great fears and has contributed to the split.

I feel completely broken and lost.

I hope that we can rekindle this relationship if I give them space.
I am trying not to plague my partner with whatsapp or emails to give them the space to recover.

I have set up a new email address and am writing to that and sending the emails I would have sent to my partner to this new account. In time I may send the login details to them so that they can see that I never accepted the split.

I am feeling so crushed at the moment.

You can keep it secret, not involve the kids, not tell the ex, you can involve the police, social services. Your ex doesn’t have to control your life unless you let him. Your terrified of him. You need to stand up to him then he will no longer have the means to hurt you. Your allowing him the power by being affected by it. They only do these things because we react because it works, you need to not let them beat you. It’s hard I can write the words but I took it myself all my life it’s only now I see we only have one life we have to live it and fight back. Be strong