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Breakdown of marriage

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prettycatseyes · 23/04/2020 23:33

Hi, I don't know where to start really, I suppose I need a virtual hand hold and someone to talk to.
Me and my husband have been married 2 years and we haven't been getting on lately.
During lockdown a few weeks back he went to his family's house and stayed overnight...this really upset me because I take the lockdown restrictions serious. We argued when he got home, he didn't think he had done anything wrong and it really made me think, and how irresponsible he is...he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again..but tonight he has done it again and gone out. I'm so upset to think that he's disrespected me again.
He has been acting physically and emotionally distant with me for the last few weeks and I don't know why. I've tried talking to him and he says that he's struggling with the lockdown.
We have had numerous problems since we got married and we split up shortly last year but I gave him another chance...my friends thought I was mad in doing this and I feel I can't talk to them this time..
Just need some firm talking to and a hand hold please 😊
Thanks for reading x

OP posts:
Ryah1 · 24/04/2020 00:07

Why did you split last year?

SomeoneElseEntirelyNow · 24/04/2020 00:10

are you sure he went to his parent? Sounds to me like he's cheating on you OP, sorry

LovingLola · 24/04/2020 00:12

Cut your losses.
Divorce him.

Holothane · 24/04/2020 00:15

Get rid, of he does this under lockdown what’s he going to be like when if things get better, you don’t need this sort of worry.

BelfryBat · 24/04/2020 00:39

I doubt he’s gone to his family’s house. He’s having an affair. Sorry.

mumof2under2sohelpmegod · 24/04/2020 00:45

OP, I'm sorry this is hard, it really bloody is hard this lockdown, apart from the absolute tragedies that are happening, even if you're not directly impacted in that way, the lack of outside interaction is taking its toll on every body, every marraige, every friendship, every relationship you have, even with yourself.
I'm not sure you're looking for answers, I think you know the answers for yourself deep down (as we all do unfortunately) but a virtual hug, hand hold, glass of wine or whatever you need is coming your way. You may be alone but you are not lonely here Thanks

prettycatseyes · 24/04/2020 00:57

Thank you so much all of you for replying.
I did think affair in the back of my mind, that's the first thing I thought of but I'm not sure...
The answer to one of your questions is why we split up last year. It was a combination of money problems, not from me, from him, not paying his share of the rent and bills etc, getting addicted to prescription drugs and being abit of an arse in general really but I wanted my marriage to work..we have been back together since December and things were ok in the beginning (which they usually are)...
I really have to consider my future. As much as I don't want to divorce I think I do need to end my marriage. I feel so awful for only being married for 2 years and guilt as my parents paid for the wedding. But I really appreciate you taking the time and replying, means a lot x

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mumof2under2sohelpmegod · 24/04/2020 01:00

Your parents I'm sure wouldn't want you to stay with someone because they paid for a day, let go of that thought train and do what is right for you! X

prettycatseyes · 24/04/2020 01:03

Yes you are right, I know they wouldn't. It's so hard, it was always in the back of my mind in December was I making the right decision getting back together which of course it wasn't.
I can't obviously sleep as worrying about what he is doing. I'm so angry, the more I think about.

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