Pretty sure he doesn’t fancy me anymore

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That’s it really. No sex really, no nothing, live like brother and sister.

I think he doesn’t fancy me anymore but can’t say it to me.

I’ve asked him and he says he does but actions speak louder than words right.

Living together? How long have you been together? Was his sex drive high before? Details please but yes it’s not a good sign. But then again he could be going through something you never know. Communicate how you feel it’s better knowing the truth than wondering like this

We have been together for almost six years, engaged a year ago.

I’m 99.9% sure he has a speed addiction, I’ve seen loads of evidence. Of course I have confronted him, months ago in fact and after some pushing he admitted he got it to test.

I know the end is here, I suppose I’m just posting here so I can deal with my feelings as I go along.

I normally crumble when a relationship ends so trying to avoid that as much as possible.

Sex does die off. And the fancy lust part always fades. Is he stressed? Life does impact on sex drive

Yes he says he’s very stressed, I believe this.

He said recently he doesn’t want to sleep as he doesn’t feel like he’s got long left. He was an alcoholic for many years and sober two years in May.

It is killing me slowly. I’ve never picked at myself before but this is making me feel unattractive and I’m actually not bad looking at all.

Seeing a therapist really helped me to walk away from a bad relationship as I had always previously crumbled after break ups. My therapist was amazing and a huge rock. She helped me to reflect on past relationships too and figure out what I was doing wrong and how to set myself up for a good and healthy relationship in the future.

You can probably find a therapist online and who can do phone / Skype sessions with you.

Good luck

I’m 99.9% sure he has a speed addiction

He said recently he doesn’t want to sleep as he doesn’t feel like he’s got long left. He was an alcoholic for many years

He needs help.

Why on earth do you think the situation has got anything to do with whether he fancies you or not?

It is killing me slowly. I’ve never picked at myself before but this is making me feel unattractive and I’m actually not bad looking at all

You are spectacularly misunderstanding what is going on. Your partner is an addict with mental health difficulties. What you look like is irrelevant.

I can’t help him in any way until he admits he has a problem.

I think he doesn’t fancy me anymore as he sleeps in the shed, in fact he’s in it 24/7.

He rarely comes to bed. He’s in the shed right now.

Sounds pretty much over to be honest, flogging a dead horse, I would end this and go and find some happiness

I told him today it was over, that we have some kind of weird friendship and not a relationship.

He’s in the shed so there I have it. I do realise it’s over, just posting here to help with my feelings as they come up.

OP, chin up, stay strong and look after yourself xxxxxx

Thank you