Ex wants back! Help!

[Gigi993]

Little bit of history-we were together for 4 years and have 2 year old together. The relationship wasnt great and I always felt alone and not loved. He did tell me he loves only once and kept telling me he is not sure I’m the one for him. We never argued and had similar plans for future, but I never felt loved - I saw his family only once and he didn’t want to spend much time with me. Never met his friends. Refused to talk about marriage etc.I also found text messages from other woman and they been on a date(but looks like they didn’t sleep together). Finally I decided to end it and I’m so happy I did! For two months I cried, because I loved him and it was hard to get over it. Now I’m happy and excited to meet someone who will love me one day. My ex now decided he wants me and was an idiot. He is Doing therapy (over Skype atm), coming to see his child more often and saying he will do anything to get me back. I’m torn I loved him and we have child together, but I’m so much happier now without him (but it might just be the idea of meeting someone who might not even exist)- what would you do?! I’m definitely not taking him back straight away - but is it something you would consider?

You are so much happier without him so why would you want to make yourself unhappy again?

The answer is no.
You know it is

I always felt alone and not loved

he is not sure I’m the one for him

he didn’t want to spend much time with me.

Refused to talk about marriage etc.

I also found text messages from other woman and they been on a date

I think these are more than enough reasons enough to say no chance of getting back.

He went on a date while in a relationship with you.

He only loves once...I presume that was someone before you?

I'd tell him, that time has passed and as far as you two are concerned, you'd just like a good coparenting relationship and for the focus to be your little one.

Keep it practical, without getting emotional about your relationship and the pain he caused you.

He can’t date right now so he’s trying it on with you. There’s no way in hell I’d take him back! Tell him to Jog On

You are happier without him and you said the relationship wasn’t great when you were together. Why would you even give it a moment’s thought, other than to say Naaaah. He had his chance and he blew it, more fool him. Once this corona crisis is over there is every chance you will meet someone better. Stay strong!