So sad

[Rosebel]

Last night my husband kept me awake until 5 in the morning snoring. I eventually fell asleep but had to be up by 8 as I had a midwife appointment.
Thought I'd get a good sleep tonight instead but as soon as I lay down my husband made it obvious he wanted sex. I said no.
Anyway it escalated until he kicked me out of bed and told me to sleep on the sofa.
Now on the sofa knowing I won't sleep because it's uncomfortable and I'm too upset.
Thing is I know in the morning he'll make out he was joking and I was stupid to sleep downstairs but I know he wasn't joking.
I guess I'm not really asking anything but just sad and needed to get it out of my system.

He has physically abused you before. He has hit you in front of your older dd. You left him. You went back to him.
Leave for good this time.

well that behaviour must really have made him sooo much more sexually attractive. What a beast.

I would have hosed him down. I'd rather sleep alone in a wet bed than in the same house as a sexual bully.

He now expects you to give in to future demands, or pay the price. Sick bastard.

If your daughter had a boyfriend who did this, what would you think of him?

If you've left him before you should again. He didn't change he played the game enough to get you back.

Leave him ffs

Honestly we do have good times together and we do love each other, I think he might be stressed over everything thats happened.
I'm glad to see I wasn't wrong to be upset and know we'll have to talk when our children are in bed. I think he is feeling guilty though as he's been very attentive this afternoon.

He should feel guilty. But he should also own up to what he did and apologise for it. He definitely should not pretend it didn't happen. Especially as other things have happened before!

It seems like you've had quite a lot of issues. I really think you need to question what is truly best for yourself and your children.

"Honestly we do have good times together and we do love each other, I think he might be stressed over everything thats happened."

Sorry, OP, but that's not good enough. You're minimising what he did and making excuses for him probably because you've learnt to normalise his abusive behaviour and you're just relieved that he's now behaving like a decent human being. He pestered you - his pregnant wife - for sex and when you refused to have sex, he physically kicked you - his pregnant wife - out of bed and made you - his pregnant wife - sleep on the sofa. I'm labouring the point, OP, because I'm really angry on your behalf. And you should be angry, too - not sad - but furious. How dare he treat you like that!?!

Being stressed isn't a licence to treat your partner like sh1t. His behaviour was abusive and he's been abusive before. I'm sure you do have good times together - even abusers don't behave abusively all the time. And in fact the ecstacy/misery cycle in an abusive relationship can be addictive (Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood is very good on this). The test of a relationship is not how good it is when everyone's on good form but how bad it gets when people are at their worst. This sounds really bad.

You deserve much better than this. Do you want your DC growing up thinking that this is normal and healthy?

I think he is feeling guilty though as he's been very attentive this afternoon.
In that case he needs to admit what he did, apologise and try to mend fences.

Stop making excuses for him and minimising what he did, he physically kicked you his pregnant wife for refusing him sex and then forced you out of the bed and made you sleep on the sofa, so he punished you for refusing sex. What has happened to you in your life to make you think this is anyway acceptable behaviour? He hasn’t even apologised and you’re here making excuses and defending him just because he was a bit “attentive” this afternoon, probably buttering you up so you feel like you owe him sex later.