Marriage ended last year by me..... is this it now?

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Im a bit older [53] and I swing from never wanting to share my life/home with a man again ever ever again to suddenly feeling a bit panicked at the finality of that and wonder if I should be more open to meeting someone. I dont think I could bear OLD again. Pretty sure I just cant be arsed to go through all that getting to know someone etc etc. I do sometimes question whether I am happier on my own as I do get terrible lonely [one reason why I married my ex] but then think about everything that goes with being in a r'ship.....am I just jaded and in lockdown thinking time or are there people who once they have left their marriage/r'ship envisage staying happily on their own and ARE happier.... think I am having a wobble

Hi. I left my marriage almost exactly a year ago and it's been an emotional roller-coaster of a year, but I can definitely say that I have found peace of mind. I would also say I've found a different level of happiness - but that doesn't stop me from also feeling lonely sometimes. Sorry, that's probably not very helpful! I have been OLD and found it pretty dire in my region and age group (under 40). I do hope I have another relationship but I'm also learning to be with myself.

Wobbles are totally allowed, especially at the moment! Come and join us on the happy singleton thread. Lots of us are working towards feeling happy as singletons.

Pretty much the same here and same age 50s.

After 2 marriages, it just isn't for me.
I'm come to the conclusion that most men aren't capable of meeting my needs in the way I would like. They expect a whole lot but don't give much back.

So many our age ruined their health with their vices and I'm not interested in being a nursemaid either.
I don't want to clean up after someone else. I don't want to defer to them. It's not worth it.

Same position here. I'm 52 and my 2nd marriage ended last year after he cheated; I'm now wondering is this it? Can I be bothered to start fishing in an ever decreasing pool of fish that have been thrown back?
I think a lot of men my age are winding down (and going to seed) while a lot of women are being released from the burden of childcare and rediscovering the joy of a friendship and a spontaneous social life.
But, the thought of a sexless future and evenings without a cuddle on the sofa does not appeal. For now I remain open-minded and am trying to open up my social life as much as possible. I may well retry OLD at some point but I'm realistic enough to know that my chances of finding someone are v.low.