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Gay in a straight marriage?!

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SharonSmith86 · 21/04/2020 19:34

Long story short, I have always known I was bisexual maybe gay. At 14 I tried to tell my best friend however she told me I was being daft & just needed a boyfriend. I have never spoken to anyone else until now! I met my husband when I was 15, we had a baby at 17 & married at 18, I always felt the need to be straight (my parents would never accept me if I wasn’t) I’m now 26 & 11 years into my relationship with the most caring loving husband I could ever ask for & I do love him. However I admitted to him over the past few weeks about my attractions towards women & he has been so supportive!! (Which makes all this harder!) I don’t want to loose our family unit but I don’t want to be in a relationship that I don’t have the sexual attraction in, it’s like living with my best friend I avoid sex, we laugh, we cry we’re great together but we’re not a couple. He offered me a free pass to go and explore of course I said no, but I can’t get it out my mind the opportunity to see if I am gay or if I was confused..

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sneeuw · 21/04/2020 19:42

It seems the main issue here, sexuality aside, is that you're married to someone you're not sexually compatible with. If you and he don't ever (often) want to have sex or sexual intimacy, maybe that's fine. But if you're avoiding sex, it suggests that's not the case.

Your sexuality is actually second to this at the moment.

Do you want to live with this man for the rest of your life and do you want to have sex with him for the rest of your life - or avoid sex with him for the rest of your life?

Those are the questions, because even if you had an open marriage, or realise you're bi, if you don't want to have sex with him then that's your underlying problem.

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