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Breakdown of marriage

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EMVR · 21/04/2020 17:32

Hi, I've been feeling trapped in my marriage for a while however can't pin point it to anything in particular. My husband is caring, sometimes smothers me a bit and is always there when I turn around, or if I go out he's messaging within 30mins asking when I'll be back and wanting to know where I am.
We have had multiple issues in the past of up and down feelings. There have been instances of cheating on both sides a long time ago and times where I have given up time with my friends for being made to feel guilty being with them and not him.
We got married 5 years ago (but together for 15years) and have 2 children aged 5 and 2.
My feelings for him are not what they should be towards your husband, I love him as a father to my kids and that will always be there but as for an attraction or intimacy it's gone. Am I being a complete cow in thinking that the marriage has come to an end or do I just suck it up and stay in the marriage despite not being 100%??

If we split, I have no idea what to do in the current lockdown situation.

Thanks in advance

OP posts:
LiteraryType · 22/04/2020 06:47

You don't need to rush into anything. At the moment life is out of your control so take your time; this is a weird time that is messing with all our heads.

I honestly believe you can improve relationships with some effort so maybe start with trying that. By spending some time together - having a meal or a walk - and later kissing etc can allow the body to feel aroused.

I've had periods like you describe and really close, happy times since. Relationships evolve and change and they do require effort. We all get bored with our DHs/DPs - that's life. But you have children and a shared life & all that comes with that. Is it worth working on?

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