My boyfriend (like a lot of men in their mod30s) likes to have a few drinks at the weekend and during lockdown, during the week also. I don’t have a problem with this, he’s a grown man and can do as he likes. I am not a big drinker and will stop after a couple.
The problem is, when he’s drunk, he tends to say stupid things, both to me and his friends and because I’m sober, they stick in my mind.
Some of the little gems he has come out with to his friends (in front of me)
Talking on the phone to his sister’s friend, he gets off phone after ages and his sister asks what they were talking about “we were wondering why we never got to know each other better”
Looking at photos of my friend and I on a night out, he asked if I would sleep with my friend. When I said no, he said “I would”
Out of the blue one night, he told me that we were sexually compatible because when he was with his ex, after she had finished riding him, her vaginal juices would give him a spotty pubic area
Talking to his friend when I stepped into the next room, telling him how much this particular woman turned him on and how he’d love to sleep with her
Telling me that his friends wife is extremely attractive, very, very attractive
He sometimes calls me horrible names when he’s drunk and tells me he regrets moving in together and that I suffocate him. Then, other times, he tells me I’m the love of his life and he wants to marry me and be with me forever.
When I try to talk to him about these things the next day, he says he was drunk and to ignore it. Some people say being drunk brings out the real side of people, I don’t know what to believe, if he doesn’t mean it, does that mean he doesn’t mean the nice stuff he says too?
It’s starting to really get me down.