Ready to scream

[Festivalgirl83]

Why do people flout the rules and think it's ok?

DP's ex wife will not allow their DD to come to our house even though guidance clearly states children can move between homes. However she is allowing grandparents who they dont live with to look after DD when she is at work. Also doing social things such as walks and sunday dinners and leaving her there whilst she goes supermarket shopping. She isnt allowed to come to us as my DC are going to school certain days as I'm an NHS worker and so she doesnt want her mixing with my DC who might have caught germs.
She seems to forget as a key worker herself she could be bringing germs into their house??

It is really hurtful for my DP but she is allowing him to go and visit the child at her house 🤔

All three of us are key workers

It's a tough one. She's maybe just trying to reduce the risk to both households.

I have still been sending my dc to their dads but both households are wfh and not going out much. If we both had households with key workers in we would probably be reconsidering contact too.

Is she a key worker? If so, her parents might be the only people who can look after the child. If they are older and/or have health conditions, she may be trying to shield them. If she is a key worker, we as a country need her.

It's really tough but right now it's for the best. If it goes on for more than a couple more months, then I'd maybe consider some kind of contact, maybe at a distance?

Of course it's ridiculous. If the grandparents can look after her then so can her father. She's clearly just being controlling and wanting your partner at her house and trying to freeze you out.