Don't understand !!

[Willowmartha1]

I went out a couple of times with a guy just before lockdown and since then he has messaged every day to see how I am doing and he has called a few times and spoken about which pubs he wants to take me to after lockdown and other plans etc. The last few days the phone calls have stopped and text messages feels he is just messaging to be polite ! I'm guessing he's cooling it off but he was so utterly full on initially almost too much ! Why do men do this ??!!

Because he's a dick?

He probably had other women on the boil while chatting with you and has got interested in someone/s else.

The full on at the beginning is also a red flag. Lucky escape op

(don't weaken if he comes back because his other options haven't worked out)

Springydaff a red flag that he is also chatting to other women or a red flag for something else ??!!

A red flag that he love-bombed you at the beginning. Google it, I think you'll recognise it xx

Thanks springydaff he mentioned he was still in touch with the ex on one of our last phone calls so I'm guessing she's back !! X

Men do this all the time (sadly). Its NOTHING to do with you. He has either been chatting to others, the ex is back on the scene, or he wasn't 100% sure about you and has changed his mind. It doesn't matter.
I would just stop replying to him and then block. That gives you back a bit of control and shows him he can't mess you around.

And a week after we are 'allowed out' to go and meet people. He will be back onto you - because she will have remembered why he is an ex and what a twat he is.

Just feel like an idiot for believing him now and feel slightly miffed that I won't be treated to anything nice after lockdown oh well !!!

Khione I think he left her because she was into drugs and he wasn't.

When a man is full on at the beginning, always treat it with a pinch of salt. Some men (not all!) will do it quite calculatingly in order to get a woman into bed - they will say what they think the woman wants to hear. But even if it's not done cynically, by definition, it is based on fantasy and not reality so can't be taken too seriously.