Hi I have name changed for this post I need to know if I have just needed my 9 year relationship for nothing . Basically just put my work clothes on because I start at 5 am and drove off just found somewhere to stay and hopefully nod off . I have issues with porn . My ex was addicted to it . Refused to have sex with me for months at a time . I would find his stash every where . Also in his phone he would have people from our town sending him naked photos the lot so since then I hate it . Met my partner told him all about it when we 1st started dating . So he knows that I won't have porn in the relationship. He agreed said he didn't really watch it and all was fine . Then two years ago found out he had been watching it . I didn't flip I was just so sad . All the feelings I felt cake back . Not good enough . Ugly , fat he's watching it because he doesn't fancy me . All the stuff my ex used to say to me . Obviously he was embarrassed I found out then got emotional said he was sorry he was randy when I was in work promised he wouldn't do it again . Then he changed his code for his phone . We both got the same codes so I thought that was odd . One day on thee au home from work he give me his phone which was open as I was doing online banking but he kept and eye on me the whole time then all of a sudden what's app messages came though and all were pics and videos off men he worked with . I lost it looked and there were hundreds . Months worth . I took him back but said it was his last chance . He sent me a text saying how sorry he was and he would never ever do this again . Didn't want to throw away what we got and the future . Then tonight . Two years on the satellite shower was happening . We were both out looking and I didn't have my phone so I said could I film it off his and he wouldn't give it to me so I go back and get mine I got out and he's hiding his phone so I say I hope you ain't got dodgy stuff on your phone again he said no do you want a look I said no . We go to bed and our sex life hasn't been that good lately . Even tho we are trying for a baby . Same pattern as last time so I grab his phone and look in his gallery . And there's videos of women stripping off in to sexy underwear . Then two other which I didn't look at but one looked like porn . So I'm thinking do I just not tell him and try get on with it half hour laying in bed I couldn't do I wake him and and I say why have you done this again and he was like done what so I show him the videos he's like I haven't even seen them . So I look when he downloaded them and he had them all sent to him a again on a sleazy what's app group and he's watched them all and even commented . So I get up get dressed and say to him that's it's over I actaully want him gone when I come home tomorrow. I said I can't believe you are doing it again when you promised me you wouldn't . He didn't say a word to me but he never does when he's been caught out lying . He doesn't like anything dirty either and I don't ever do anything to hurt him . I'm feeling so sad right now like I am actaully going to throw this all away because of this but to me this is bad . I need some views if I am over reacting ? Thankyou all x