My sister keeps going after the men that I have dated or potential dates etc..
The first guy I dated I decided I didn't like him but would stay just friends....I later found out the following weekend she went out on a date with him. It wasn't the fact that she went on a date with him but the fact that both her and him kept it a total secret from me...he was even still phoning me telling me how much he still wanted to date me during his weekend with her! I was telling him how happy I was that he'd managed to find another girl to date and that I hope it all worked out for him...little did I know it was my sister!
We fell out for a short while over this incident as I didn't like her going behind my back. When we made up, she apologised and said she wouldn't go behind my back again etc.
The second guy I was chatting to on the internet and had arranged a date with...she is on the same dating site so I told her that I was talking to him, liked him and that I was going on a date with him. She then proceeded (behind my back) to contact him and set up her own date with him. I confronted her about her strange behaviour around me when her mobile rang or a text came in!....she confessed, got shitty with me and said he was all mine!...but kept in contact with him. I pulled out of my date with him. Told him I wouldn't go there!
I had words with her and again she agreed not to go for the same men at the same time.
I have now just found out that she is contacting another guy that was interested in taking me out....we were all at a concert...she went to the toilet, closely followed by him which I thought was funny but didn't think anything more. I found out they are now in contact because his name was also on an email she sent to me! He can only have given it to her at the concert.
I haven't confronted her about this one... just told him I wouldn't be keeping in touch with him.
Why does she do this....ok I know these men are not exactly mine as it's early days and I understand that they may prefer her to me and that is fine by me....but ffs why doesn't she stay well clear for a while? I wouldn't dream of moving in on her men! The shit would hit the fan if I tried!
Do I just not tell her anything any more? I don't trust her at all. It's difficult not to chat as sisters normally would though as I go out with her quite often....but I can't be doing with every potential date being taken off me all the time! I suppose they aren't the men that I really want to be with if they can just go off in the first place but that's besides the point. I tend to back down and walk away....she's full on and very flirty.
Any advice most welcome on how to deal with the situation.