How do move on?

[Jackeroosmum]

Some of you may remember my post from a couple of weeks back. To summarise found out in October that my Husband of 10 years (together for 16) had had another affair. First two were one night stands 7 years ago and this one was a 2 month thing 2 years ago. Anyway he moved out in Feb (delay due to my dad getting very ill and me caring for him until January).
Anyway despite husband being devastated and hugely remorseful and getting therapy I am trying to come to terms with the fact our marriage is over. I know I can't trust him which means our relationship has no future.
But... How do you move on? I know it's early days ish but anytime I think about him dating or I see his flirty messages on social media to women I can't cope. It's like a panic attack. I get it under control pretty quick but it makes me feel sick to my core.
So tips please... How do you make yourself move on and stop loving someone when you still see them frequently due to kids and still have regular contact? (Oh and of course you're in lockdown so have hours with your thoughts!)

Lockdown deffo won't help.

Time does heal - I can say that 7 years later when all that crap seems like a distant memory.

How old are the kids? If you can minimise the number of times you have to see him, that will help. For instance I do weekend drop offs via activities - so one of us drops off there and the other picks up.

Accept that it will hurt badly for a while - don't pressure yourself to get over it. Be kind to yourself.

Remove him from your social media.

As per pp, remove him from your social media (right now).

Limit contact with him, create emotional distance. Keep messages/calls to practical arrangements only, don't engage in chit-chat or arguments or going over the past. Later on you might be able to have a more friendly state, but this is survival mode for a bit, and you need to put up walls.

I don't have him on social media as such but his accounts aren't locked down so when I'm feeling weak (or drunk!) I can't help but look. Kids are 4 and 9 but unfortunately especially with the way things are at the minute we're seeing each other every day as having to team manage the working from home thing. Even before this though I was still seeing him loads as I do the school run every day (I work from home 4 days usually).
As for chit chat, you're right but I don't see any other adults so it's really hard not to just be grateful to see someone and just talk. It's so hard right now.

Let me bat these back at you .

Don't drink and text/internet - it's one or the other. And block him where you can so you can't see his stuff easily.

Concentrate on your friends and family to fill the loneliness/adult company gap - phone/video call etc. Keep it short and on the doorstep.