When DH’s daughter (my DSD) is here, he is much more talkative towards me. I feel because he wants me to help with running things while she’s here, she’s autistic so it can be quite awkward socially because she doesn’t always reply/respond when you talk to her and is highly anxious.
As soon as she’s gone, he disconnects. Doesn’t really talk just lays around the house and always puts this down to “depression” which I feel is his ‘get out of jail free card’ because he seems to really switch it on and off.
He will be really jolly and present and then suddenly just withdraw without any apparent event to cause it.
It’s all so amplified at the moment because we are together a lot more.
Each time he does this (we have a young daughter together) I feel that my DD feels rejected by him as he just ignores her/ goes on his laptop etc. I feel rejected too but when I tell him this or try to get into a dialogue about it he hates it and gets all defensive and just doesn’t talk to me.
It’s such a shame because when he’s present, it’s lovely.