Is he just being lazy?!

[LMcmahon]

Every weekend lately my husband and i have the same argurment about "different parenting styles" I hear our child asking his father the same question over and over again and gets no resonse because he is too busy looking at his phone to even notice that his child is talking to him!

My husband says he is trying to teach him independant play and wont jump to his every wim like i do. I call it lazy parenting and he just cant be bothered to respond to his own child.

How do you get around different parenting styles? (Or what i call, one hands on parent, and one lazy parent)

That's not different parenting styles. He doesn't sound like he is interested in your child. Poor thing

Independent play my arse. You can read that as "any play the child can engage in, on it's own, without disturbing me" . It's an excuse and a pretty old one to be honest.

That won't teach your son 'independent play', it will teach him that his father doesn't care about him. Your H is being lazy, and frankly uncaring. He needs to respond, even if it's to say "I'm reading right now, why don't you do x y z / can you not disturb me right now" (or whatever an appropriate response is to the question). Ignoring is at best rude, at worst neglectful.

What witching hour said. I’ve had this argument at home. They have to be acknowledged to teach them how to interact with others. In other words, when your husband says their name and they ignore him, he’ll have no-one to blame but himself!

I can understand how he might not hear them if he is engaged with what he is doing. As you tune out background noise.
What age your DC are is relevant here.

But also, if he can't multi task whilst DC are in his care, then he needs to put the mobile down.

That's the only way I can ensure I don't ignore mine accidentally when they are asking me something as I really don't hear them!

Mine are teens so they can be expected to wait a few minutes or to get my attention. But I also put my phone down most of the time I am with them- it's a long day!- (for me the trick is getting mine to turn their EarPods off or put their own phones down!!! )

I think you need to talk to your DH about being "off duty" and being "on duty" and the phone is put down when he's on duty, in the day.

You both need an hour here or there separately off duty- that is negotiated- for BOTH of you to do something else (eg read your phones) uninterrupted for your own sanity.