Confused

[Unnamedguy]

So I did the unthinkable after months of nasty gut feelings and looked through partners phone. Unfortunately proved my gut correct and we've worked hard and got through it. But now I've noticed for a while she's constantly messaging. Makes a conscious effort to turn away from me or swipe whatever off the screen as quick as possible. When I leave the house she's straight on the phone and hangs up as soon as I open the door on return. She admits deleting every message daily says its to wind me up but could that be the case. I always try to talk but she argues or gets angry. I've said I trust her but after her previous bad doings I say she's not exactly doing things in a way that wouldn't raise concerns. Understand this is quite vague but my heads just mashed. Advice greatly appreciated

Bin her is the short answer.

Even If she was deleting every message to wind you up (not the reason), why would you want to be with someone that's deliberately making you feel bad.

I'd walk. Probably giving her the middle finger on my exit.

Even if she’s not cheating it massively immature to act this way, how old is she?

You need to break it off with her.

I've said I trust her but after her previous bad doings I say she's not exactly doing things in a way that wouldn't raise concerns.

Why would you trust someone who has a) betrayed you and b) is, at the very least, deliberately trying to upset you?

Those are, surely, the behaviours of someone who is not worthy of your trust?

Get rid.

She's obviously still in contact with the person she cheated with, or someone else.

Doing it to wind you up?

So you forgave her for cheating and you're supposedly trying to make a go of your relationship together, but she would act suspiciously with her phone to "wind you up"??!!

Even if that were true ( I doubt it) that would mean she's a horrible, weird, nasty b*tch. Who'd want to cause someone they care about (and who's forgiven them for cheating - or an emotional affair or wherever you found) anxiety, stress, upset etc.?

She's no good, plenty of other women out there. You'll find another one sooner or later. Chuck her cheating, nasty arse back in the pool.

It'll hurt like fk but after a while you'll feel better and move on. If you stay with her you're just prolonging the hurt.

Oh and she'll get upset and probably beg if you chuck her.

It'll be very tempting to think it's because she loves etc etc. But the reality with people like this is that they like to do the dumping, not be dumped. They like to hold all the cards so they say what's necessary to keep you as an option.

You're not their choice though, just an option .. and they'll back to engaging with others behind your back when they feel secure again.

After what's happened, if she can't be 100% transparent with what she's up to then she's NOT a keeper. Trust me on this one, she sounds exactly like my exh, even down to deleting messages or spending inordinate amounts of time on his phone 'just to get a reaction'. It's a hard pass.

You don’t trust her, rightly so. Bin. 100%