Ladies, where do you stand in the whole looking at other people while in a relationship situation?
I hate it!!! I absolutely hate it!!!
I’ve been with my DP for a couple of years. Hes obsessed with social media and is nearly always on his phone. He constantly is looking at and liking pictures of women in their bikinis and thongs, videos of women bent over jiggling their ass around (the so called Instagram models, not famous people- the women that get their bits out at the drop of a hat). He even likes pictures of women he knows when they’re wearing lingerie and posing. When we’re driving along, he’ll constantly be looking at women walking along the pretending that he thought he knew them. We can’t even take my 4 year old without him smiling at other women. Last night we were sat in the sofa and he was on his phone flicking through Facebook when he scrolled past a woman’s back picture, he quickly went back for a second look as she was in a thong. When I got a bit agitated with him, he said it’s a natural man thing to look and it doesn’t matter as long as he’s not touching. Today, out of curiosity, I had a look on his social media pages and he’s following loads of those types of pages. When I told him that I don’t like it and it upsets me, he flew off the handle telling me it’s my problem because I’m insecure. He can up to me a hour later and said sorry and that he’d deleted all those sorts of things. I’ve just looked, he hasn’t deleted any of them.
I’ve explained it makes me feel like I’m not enough for him and that I need to change my body to look like them. I told him that I don’t follow anything like that with men and that when we go out, no one else catches my eye. He goes mental when men look at me but I don’t notice it until he starts kicking off as I’m genuinely not looking at anyone.
He tells me that I’m perfect as I am and that he doesn’t want me to change.
Should he respect my feelings or is it a normal man thing and I need to just accept it?