Lockdown putting pressure on relationship

[isolation999]

Name changed because DP knows my usual username.

Me and DP had a few issues before lock down that we didn't really get a chance to work through or make changes we needed thanks to isolation.

Now we're in isolation I'm fed up. We spend all day stuck in him on the sofa watching whatever he wants while I do everything! The amount of times I've asked him if he thinks it's fair or he pulls his weight enough he admits he doesn't but then doesn't change and gets pissed off if I don't drop it.

He's happy to sit on screens all day doing what he wants but I hate it, I suggest something I want to watch and it's no he don't fancy that, I suggest doing something it's no he don't fancy that.

He's happy to carry on as we are, I'm not. I'm not sure if lock down is making my feelings more intense or not. We've just had a huge row over my DC and his DC and now it's another night in separate rooms with an unbearable atmosphere.

Anyone?

hi op, I am in the same boat & I feel like i'm going mad! my DP also does nothing and I do everything aswell as run about after our toddler. We nearly called it quits before lockdown but decided to try and work through it and like you now it's as if none of it ever happened because of this virus & I want changes to be made so i stop feeling like this!

I tried to calmly talk to my partner about this but it didn't go to well, I think the pressure of being stuck at home and arguing makes it worse because noone can leave or get space.

We have agreed to try and keep a level hesd and openmind until this is over, but it's becoming more difficult and i'm trying not to snap at his complete selfishness!

Hugs to you xx

I've started a similar thread so I hear you. Today I've told him to spend the day upstairs in our bedroom with all his crap technology and leave me in peace downstairs 👍🏻

“He's happy to carry on as we are, I'm not. I'm not sure if lock down is making my feelings more intense or not. We've just had a huge row over my DC and his DC and now it's another night in separate rooms with an unbearable atmosphere.”

He’s happy to carry on as you are because he’s just pleasing himself the whole time. Probably most couples are bickering a bit more than normal but it sounds like he’s checked out of your shared life. It doesn’t sound to me like your relationship has much of a future. Are there compelling reasons to stay together?