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Is lockdown making me crazy?

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LockdownLoopy · 16/04/2020 20:37

So I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, it's long distance however we have spent a lot of long weekends together as well as lots of additional time. He is an amazing man always makes me feel loved, wanted, sexy, secure etc etc.

Obviously due to lockdown we've not been able to see each other for a month and we've never done that since we first met. I have really bad health anxiety anyway and this has made me worse and now I'm constantly overthinking, worried he will get bored of me, worried he will find someone else more interesting, second guessing why he's sometimes quiet (he's a bit of a geek and I suspect he's doing geeky computer stuff).

Anyway I decided to be nosey on his social media, he only uses twitter and I'm not a big twitter fan or user, so we've never added each other on there, and there is one specific woman on there who's selfies, updates and art he has started to very recently like a LOT. Now logically my brain is telling me, so what? She lives on the other side of the world. My crazy illogical brain is worried this is who he's busy talking to whilst he is silent. He's never given me any reason to worry, so why is my brain thinking this way? I've never been the possessive crazy girlfriend type, am I going crazy? Is it the lockdown? Is it womens intuition? I need to hear some truths lol.

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Fidgety31 · 16/04/2020 20:54

It’s anxiety .
You’re thinking things that probably haven’t happened.
Keep yourself busy . Take your kind elsewhere .
Otherwise you’ll drive yourself round the bend and then it will also come out in your conversations with him and that will only make things worse

Lilolily · 16/04/2020 21:49

I think it’s normal. We’re social animals and having that aspect taken away is making us anxious. I’m exactly the same as you, not a jealous bone in my body, yet I just looked into who had liked my boyfriends fb post and didn’t like what I saw. Nothing untoward, it just made me feel anxious and suspicious with no reason. My brain is trying to convince me he will realise that actually he hasn’t really missed me so why bother continuing? Or that he’ll start talking to other girls cos he’s bored. No reason to think any of it.

Hang in there, we’ll get through x

Lilolily · 24/04/2020 14:28

Turns out those spidey senses were right for me! Cheating lying wanker!

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