Long Distance Relationships and Corona - Check In Here

[PinkMonkeyBird]

I know I'm not alone on this board with having a LDR and being separated from them during this time. I thought it would be good to have a safe space for those of us who are currently not able to see their loved ones. A place to maybe vent or share how we are getting on because I'm sure we are all having good and bad days.

I will start and say that it will be 4 weeks since I saw my bf. We are late 40s (me) and early 50s (him), been together for 6 months and so far no glaring issues. Since we met, we have slotted in really well together and both want it to be long term.

Before the coronavirus hit, we spent most weekends with each other and alternated weekends at each other's house, sometimes he would drive up and stay mid-week. We should have been going on holiday together in May to Spain but that has been cancelled - both of us are gutted, but being pragmatic. We message and talk every day, but jeez the physical side is being very much missed. I'm not just talking about sex, it's even just being able to lie on the sofa and watch a film, cuddle in bed etc. We do often simultaneously watch something together and discuss it via whatsapp as it is on - then he can still ask annoying questions .

I know we just have to carry on as we are until the lockdown is lifted and have no doubts about us going forward, but it is still difficult at times. He has lived on his own for a number of years and is currently WFH (job safe), so on the difficult days I do often wonder if he will go off the boil during this enforced separation and as he is so used to being on his own, it won't be a hardship if we split. We've both spoken about how we are very much ok being on our own as single people and relationships shouldn't define you, that the relationship is a bonus....but I do have days when feel I wobbly and miss him very much.

I am confident we will be fine through lockdown, but I do think we are allowed days to wallow and think the whole world is shit. A friend of mine is also in a LDR and her OH is giving her some grief for not wanting to break the lockdown restrictions. Now her relationship seems to be on the rocks, so I'm quite thankful mine isn't acting like a spoiled manchild in all of this!!

God I miss him!

I’m struggling too.

My partner moved 300 miles away the week before lockdown started to care for a terminally ill relative.

We’re both really struggling- obviously she’s having a really difficult time and isolation is a massive trigger for me so my mental health is going down the pan. Even when lockdown ends, my job means I’m still having very close contact with members of the public and social distancing doesn’t really fit into the job description so it will be too risky for me to see her.

I’m so done and just wish this was over.

I'm in a LDR too, and like you I'm really missing the physical side of our relationship, not sex but cuddles kisses and the other affectionate parts. We usually see each other every 2 weeks for a long weekend and sometimes even in between if we can swing it.

We watch stuff together at night and have a long chat each night and text throughout the day, but it's not the same and I really just need to be close to him.

This is by the far the hardest part of our relationship so far, both being tactile lovers.

Bloody covid-19 :(

I’m in a LDR too, we plan to live together one day but I fear I’m more comfortable with the current situation than he is.
Feeling guilty