DH drinking

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DH drinks every night, but only 2 or 3 drinks. He thinks this is fine but I’m not sure. I’d like to hear other opinions. Thanks

2 or 3 units or two or three heavy pours?

Is this just whilst in lockdown out of interest

Are we talking 2-3 pints, or 2-3 medium glasses of wine, or 3 double shots of spirits?

Better to state units if you can

Can he take or leave it? Does he have days he doesn't bother? Is he thinking/waiting til his next drink every day?

He’s always drunk most nights but since he’s been working from home it is every night. He says this will carry on for the duration. Last night it was 2 bottles of beer and one glass of wine.

He drinks less than he did 5 years ago, but more than a couple of months ago. I’m worried that it is going to get more and more.

The amount he drinks now appears to have no effect on him.

He says he can take it or leave it but he doesn’t want to.

The fact that he does it every night and is (apparently - have you asked him?) not willing to go without could indicate a problem, although the volume doesn't seem outrageous.

The fact that you are concerned about it suggests that drinking has been a point of concern before, and if so, he doesn't appear to be listenig to your worries. That is not a great sign.

I don't drink - special events only. My DP loves beer and he drinks two bottles a night most days. It doesn't bother me as he doesn't get remotely drunk from it he just really likes beer!

I stuff my face with chocolate every evening which I think is just as bad for me as drinking beer, so I'm not in a position to judge.

Getting drunk every night... that would be different.

I don't think this is a problem. So many people have a few drinks to unwind.
If it doesn't change him as a person, what is your issue with it? Has he had a problem in the past or does he have health issues?

I drink every night but i have a very high tolerance and never get drunk or even tipsy from a few drinks in the evening. I'd have to drink well into the early hours to be impacted by drinking. So I don't see it as a problem for me. I drink because I enjoy it, I don't need to drink and can leave it no problem.

Over how long is 2 bottles of beer and 1 glass of wine?
Because I would not be drunk on that.
I would say it would take me about 2 hours to drink that amount if at home.

Actually, having a high tolerance for alcohol is a bit of a concern, happymummy12345.

What's significant about his drinking 5 years ago, op? He sounds quite truculent about his decision to drink every night during Covid - is there something behind that?

It probably is over a couple of hours.

Maybe I shouldn’t worry then. He has no health issues that I know of. I thought I read on threads here that drinking everyday is the sign of a problem.

5 years ago we didn’t have kids and lived a bit of a party lifestyle. He was drinking significantly more, but I didn’t see it as an issue at the time.

I think he is using Covid as an excuse to not bother having alcohol free days. I won’t mention it to him again unless the drinking escalates though.

I think he is using Covid as an excuse to not bother having alcohol free days.

I think a few people are going to come out of this with an additional drinking problem. Keep an eye on it.

It would be too much for me to put up with but I knew DH wasn’t a big drinker before we got married.

I’d not date a daily or binge drinker though as dislike alcohol and the problems it brings.