What would you do?

[Halli10]

What would you do if you were stuck in your own home with your mother who has psychosis?
When she questions where you are going and what you’re up to when you just go to the shop?
When she blames you for contacting your father you haven’t seen for years.
When she shouts abuse at you everyday with her delusions and breaks your phone charger so you have no communication with the outside world.
Tells you you have to move as people are “plotting against you”
Looks through photos of you and says it’s an imposter and it’s not really you?
Called the police, she leaves then comes back.
She doesn’t want to go home
Won’t go home

Believe it or not I’m not a child, I am 22 and quite frightened as I left this over a year ago, now she’s staying with me it has all been dragged up again.

How do you deal with someone who is so toxic to you, but yet you care for very much?

Phone the police and have her removed from your house.

What is happening medically regarding her issues? Firstly you don't have to put up with toxic behaviour, you are an adult and don't deserve to be made to feel like that. However, if it's all stemming from mental health issues then I guess it's a bit more of a sensitive issue. Is it a personality thing or an illness thing?

Yeah, it's too much, OP. Nobody would expect you to handle that on your own.

She’s not diagnosed with anything. But she is displaying behaviour of psychosis

Hi I will pop you a PM now as I have similar personal experience but I don't want to post openly on the internet

Thank you

didn't you post about this already?

I did yes @chickenyhead but I would like some further advice and opinions :)

I'd do as much as I could to make sure she was receiving adequate treatment for her issues- obviously if she refuses to comply with treatment you can't personally make her follow it, but if she seems a danger to herself or others (including you) then call 999.

Don't tolerate abuse or breaking stuff. When she gets agitated call the crisis team, ambulance etc etc.

Called the police, she leaves then comes back.

It's your house- she literally can't come back unless you let her. Don't let her.

You aren't able to help her to any significant extent, at least not on your own- professionals need to step in if she can't do it herself.

Worry about your own mental health- that's your responsibility. xxx

Hi @Halli10, I am so sorry, you're in a desperate situation there. Is your mother diagnosed with something? Sounds like she needs to be and you don't have to be at the brunt of this going forward. Can you call her GP? Get advice from your local clinic or speak confidentially with a psychiatrist?

I think you have to refuse to have her stay anymore and get the police involved if she won't leave.

She clearly needs help, so contacting adult social services, her gp etc on her behalf, would seem a good step.

But I wouldn't continue living with her.