Hi everyone, this is my first post here :)
I'm not sure where to start as my situation is quite complicated...
I have been with my parter for 5 years, engaged for 6 months. Our wedding is planned for later this year, and we intended to start trying for a family as soon as we were married. Obviously with everything going on, we are feeling uncertain as to whether our wedding will even be able to go ahead, and then that puts a spanner in our other plans too.
We have discussed if we cannot have our 'weddin'g as planned, instead we will get married in a registry office and have the 'party' at a later date when safe to do so, but if this is how things pan out, we have also agreed that we may as well start trying for a baby sooner as I don't mind being pregnant for a registry office wedding. All this uncertainty has sent me into a spin of worry and confusion though, all surrounding my pill.
So I was planning on coming off of it straight after our wedding, but now that might not go ahead, I thought I would come off it now, to allow my body some time to get back into it's natural cycle, if we are to start trying in a couple of months time. I'm 31 and have been on the pill 13 years.
I have written a list of pros and cons, and ultimately I would really like to come off it, but there are a few things worrying me...
- I have had a non-existent sex drive for a couple of years now. I hadn't thought much about it before, but the doc changed my pill a few years ago, and one of the side effects of that specific pill is reduced libido. I know it's not an issue with the relationship, as I have no sexual thoughts or feelings whatsoever, so it's an issue with me and low libido. When we do have sex I enjoy it, but I never feel inclined to do so, if that makes sense. What I'm hoping is that in stopping the pill, my sex drive will return, but I'm terrified that it might not, and then this is extra worry on top of everything that's happening, and whether the wedding will go ahead or not etc.
- Is it a terrible idea to come off the pill a few months before getting married. I'm worried my periods will be awful, and that I could end up with spots etc as heard this can happen.
I feel like with this being so personal I can't really share with friends and family so would really appreciate some advice. I guess what I'm asking is if anyone else had issues with sex drive on the pill, and also what their experience of coming off the pill was?
I just feel very muddled as everything is so up in the air - do I come off the pill or not now, do I leave it longer, are we going to be able to get married as planned, or if not should we start trying for a baby sooner...you can probably see why I'm feeling so confused as everything is basically dictated by what happens with this virus, and I know a lot of others will be feeling very muddled and unsure about everything too :(
Would appreciate some advice and experiences of anyone else that found they had a low sex drive on the pill/how they found coming off it etc. Thanks :)