Sniper Husband Comments Annoying

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Prior covid-19 I lost my job and now in lockdown my DH although supporting me financially has called me broke and too old as over 40 to my DS for the job market. I am updating my skills with a course in IT and have started a creative card design course with a view to start as a side business whilst looking for a job. But during this isolation feel my DH looks at me the cook, mother and the little sniper comments are making me really annoyed.

I think I would be very direct and simply say "Your comments are very upsetting especially at this very difficult time. When you say X I feel that you don't value my contributions to this family. If you're unhappy with the status quo, let's have a constructive discussion about where we want to be as a family, then work out how we can get there. "

This is abusive, jabbing at your self-esteem, confidence and hope. You could tell him it's not ok to talk to you that way.

How does he treat you generally?

Yeah I'm sure he's a young stud himself

Remind him you are the same person. The whole country is adjusting to a new way of life.

He is clearly rattled that the financial responsibility is now on him. Very nasty to worry the child like that. Perhaps what he really wants to say is an angry shouty 'ffs how are we going to manage, why did you have to lose your job!?' But saying that out loud would make him a monster and unreasonable.
Perhaps he has harboured some unspoken resentment about the hours he works or the length of your maternity leave.
Maybe he is jealous that you are at home in the sun and he is twisting it on you to spoil your enjoyment.
Could be that he has always been an arse and now you have the time to notice it.
And just out of idle curiosity, how old is this Peter Pan?

Willowmelangell, Thanks for letting look at it through a wider lens. You're right he isn't the type to say ffs but this resentment can come out in different actions. He This little Peter Pan is 45 .

Hi EKGEMS,
Like comment right back at you springs to mind, did make you chuckle and...... No he is not a stud. Not a grisly either though. Your words gave me thought for reflection Thanks.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation , Constructive conversation is the one sometimes you have to vent and this might not allows flow the way you want . Thanks

Really appreciate all your replies it has really helped me deal with these comments . Thanks