Do I stop speaking to him if he doesn't want me?

[geerer]

A guy I met we started chatting.
We went on dates and slept together.
We text every day but he from the start said he didn't want a relationship.
He was straight with me.
He told me he didn't want to settle down and wanted to sleep around.
This has been going on nearly a year now but we haven't slept together since November.
Last year we went away together and had a great time that weekend but then he backed off.
He said now he won't spend time with me as things go too far.
He gets jealous if I go out with other men.
We still text every day ..a lot a day.
I probably have a little cry every day because we aren't together.
He knows I have feelings for him.
What do I do ?
Do I stop speaking ?
I'm hurting a lot
Wondering why when we get close he runs.
At one point I thought things were gonna work out .

Find a man who wants what you want, which I assume is a stable, loving, monogamous relationship.

In your shoes, I’d block him. It sounds like he is an emotional vampire. You need to focus your energy on someone who can give you what you want and need.

I think you just need to cut contact. If he was that bothered about you and wanted to be with you he would be. Hes been upfront with you...fair play to him...but now is time to look after yourself.

Its just a case of friends with benefits gone wrong as one of you has caught feelings and the other hasnt.

Dont say anything to him...no offence chances are he wouldnt be bothered anyway...just disappear x

He's doing a number on you.

Check out quickly.

Get turned off. Do not spend hours and hours trying to figure him out.
For whatever reason, he doesn't see you as committed relationship, that is his choice and you wouldn't want somebody to try and ''lock you down'' if they were so so about you.

He says he gets jealous if you're with other men. He's trying to keep you locked in to a half relationship I think. He's told you straight up he doesn't want a relationship, but by telling you that he gets jealous thinking about you and other men, he is throwing you a tiny bone, indicating that he has some interest in you.

Do not chase after that dry bone.

It is sad though. This happened to me once and I got sucked in to a bullshit non-relationship (after he'd told me that he didn't want a relationship but then proceeded to ignore all of the boundaries between a relationship and a friendship) so be careful.

I want to link two really good clips if I can find them. Back with them in 5

He doesn’t want a relationship with you. He’s made that clear
He knows you’ve got feelings for him
He doesn’t have the right to be jealous of you going out with other people

However he’s keeping you on a string by texting you everyday

Personally I’d walk. Block and delete his number

Find someone who wants a proper relationship with you

Hint -it won’t be him

He has been single for years and this is the most level of commitment he gets.
Shocker

It sounds like he likes the fact you are interested, for his own selfish purposes.

I've had this as well, it's awful, especially when they know you have feelings but still use it to their own advantage.

I've had one before that didn't want me but didn't really want me to go anywhere else. Would occasionally give me crumbs of hope to cling onto, obviously the actions never matched.

Wish I had deleted a lot earlier.

If you don't have to stay in contact for any reason, block. You'll feel better for it. You don't have to give him a reason/get into a discussion if you don't want to. And if you do discuss it, you might not want to let him change your mind. What he's doing isn't harmless or beneficial- he's hurting you.

Oh, one of those. "I'm going to shag around, but you must keep yourself ready for me in case I hit a dry spell".

do you think these men are even aware of what they are doing? I did wonder myself.

He is not all that. This video will help you see that.

With the Dan O'Connor, keep listening as he starts off being really sarcastic but because he's American I didn't pick up on that immediately! listen to the end. Trust me.

Stop speaking to him and block him . He's a cock !

Thanks everyone
Thankyou for taking the time @SliAnChroi for those
Il watch :-)