Slightly long one.
Been seeing a guy for about 3 months. I'm African and an immigrant, he's African too but british. BF has an Asian ex who's very sexy with gorgeous hair, not really sure he's over her but that's another thread.
I shaved my hair about 7 months ago and the only thing I can have on now are braids and/or wigs. Bf makes some comments about my hair like "when is your hair gonna grow?" One time he saw an old picture of me with my personal hair and again asked when my hair will come back. He said to me that he doesn't like my friend's dreadlocks as it's too "powerful". I shut him down to say people can do what they like. In addition, he also makes comments about my dresses when we go out. For example, when we went to a club, I'd wear a mini dress with thin straps and bf would say "in Europe, women dress classier to clubs." He throws these comments in the air as if they're not directed at me but I know they are. He would ask why I don't wear jeans as they make people classier. I honestly think he compares me with his ex because this is the way she dresses.
I'm thinking of leaving him but I'm a bit insecure about my hair especially now. I liked a white guy who got turned off after I told him I had a wig on. He just stopped talking to me. I don't mind dating guys of any race but I get so insecure when a guy of another race shows interest in me. I start thinking "would they still like me if they found out my hair is short, not straight?" "Would they like me if they realised I had a wig on?"
I don't know what I am asking. Just throwing this out there. Am I overthinking stuff?