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Crushing on someone in lockdown

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GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 18:38

Hey, it's kinda a nice problem to have, I suppose....

I'm a lesbian, and back in January I started meeting up with a small group of other queer women on a monthly basis. I met this woman, and I felt we really clicked and had a lot to talk about. I did some low key flirting.

We met once more, in a group setting. I had no idea we were about to lockdown, so I spent the entire evening avoiding flirting because I didn't want to embarrass myself. At the end of the evening she stressed how nice it was to see me again. I said I hoped very much we'd see each other soon, and when I got home I connected with her on Facebook.

I've been trying to talk myself out of this crush. We have friends in common, and I'd really like to have her as a friend if we didn't date.

Since lockdown I've been facilitating weekly virtual hangouts with this group, and she's been at both of them. The last one she was the first to join and we chatted for a few minutes - that was so nice!!

Anyway, a crush whilst on lockdown is not healthy, not one bit!! I feel like I cannot talk to her about it because rejection would be very difficult whilst in lockdown. And I'm trying my best not to social media stalk.

All the strategies I'd normally use to put this out of my head aren't available. I really wish I could somehow switch this off until we can meet in person again, as the first thing I'd want to do is see if I still feel the same way after seeing her in person a couple of times.

But argh, it is driving me mad!!!!!!

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AtrociousCircumstance · 12/04/2020 18:40

Well you could just tentatively increase private messaging? Just say hi and see how she responds?

It’s nice to make a new friend especially in lockdown so it wouldn’t have to be obvious!

GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 18:42

Haven't slid into her DMs just yet - see she probably has no idea 😓

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GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 18:51

Ok, I just a did. Wanted to throw the phone down a big hole after in case she didn't reply. She already did.

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GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 19:56

Ah, that was nice. She seemed pleased I'd messaged

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wehaveafloater · 12/04/2020 20:17

That's great! Keep up the messaging and you never know what might happen!

GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 20:28

🤞🤞🤞🤞 worst case is a nice friend

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flippefloppe · 12/04/2020 20:50

Life is too short.

Just saying.

Wink
GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 21:18

I keep telling myself that @flippefloppe, but rejection when living alone in lockdown doesn't seem worth the risk.

I'm going to see how it goes

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flippefloppe · 12/04/2020 22:09

Can you strike up a conversation?

As in songs of the day #lockdownstyle, etc?

GeekyGirl42 · 12/04/2020 22:21

Was pretty easy today, just carried on from yesterday. But yes going to see if I can find a good conversation starter every couple of days or something like that

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HollowTalk · 12/04/2020 22:22

This is one of the sweetest things I've read on here! Just treat her as a friend and whatever happens will be great.

GeekyGirl42 · 13/04/2020 12:36

Anyone else find they start judging their entire self worth on whether a crush interacts with them on Facebook? No, just me then. Really should get out more. Oh, wait...

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