Anyone else's DP "cleans" like this??

[Wheresmytonic]

Clanging around, throwing things away with gay abandon, arguing over why we need a tin of peaches in Syrup...

When will this quarantine end?

'Clanging around' is a brilliant way to describe how DH cleans.

Also backwards. He will start the kitchen by sweeping the floor, and then by the end of the kitchen clean he's back to square one.

Or will walk into a room full of toddler toys and mess, declare it a mess, and then proceed to deep clean and tidy a drawer that nobody can see the contents of anyway

Yes. It’s v deliberately passive aggressive. They are expressing their contempt for you and their sense of entitlement.

Usually they do it v badly as well, or ask loads of “studiously inept” Qs - in an attempt to make you think - fuck it I will just do it myself.

How is the rest of your RS?

My OH cuts up crispy bread on the chopping board, wipes up and any mess he’s missed sweeps the fecking bits onto the floor ... then walks off munching his beefy foot long 😡

He's currently aggressively cleaning the microwave in which his soup exploded in November.

Imo step away and let him clang on..

I think he thinks he'd be better off on his own. He likes to live a "minimalist" lifestyle and obviously I ruined all that with a variety of frying pans, lamps, rugs, photo frames and of course, tinned fruit.

Windyatthebeach

Oh yes, I am hiding upstairs and listening to the birds chirp away.

😂😂😂😂 oh @Windyatthebeach are we married to the same man?! I have to just leave him to it when he decides he's going to "clean". I say cleanly loosely as apart from throwing things away he really just moves things from one side of the room to another.

Mine starts cleaning but decides he needs a break after 10 minutes. The break doesn't consist of a sit down and glass of water, it's a sandwich, video games whilst stripped down to his underwear and then is resumed 2-3 hours later, with another break after 10 minutes of cleaning.

It's taken a week to do the kitchen but I've left him to it because I'm not his mum.

I’m hiding in the bedroom. Not been a good day for marital relations here. I’m going to have to go down for wine at some stage.

Leave him to it, then when he comes and find you afterwords to tell you blow-by-excruciating-blow exactly how and what his cleaning saga entailed, it'll be even more riveting

My dad used to do this exact same thing, how have I ended up here??

I clean like this, I usually live alone, so I can’t even blame someone else when I find things and think “wtf did this come from?!”

Boyfriend is much more civilised, tidies, vacuums, dusts and then vacuums again. Weird.

I am also starving and want dinner but not ready to go downstairs yet. He was being VERY odd about food today - I was making lunch and offered him some and he went off on a rant about how there's no need to eat so much in quarantine because we're barely moving. Fair enough, except he then went on to eat over 100kcal in snacks over the course of the evening

My DP's pretty clangy with everything. Puts the lid back on the twist-top honey by smacking his hand on it, hides the dirty frying pan in the oven after using it (to 'cool', apparently) and it sounds like an explosion in a crockery factory when he does the dishes.

But I'm not perfect either. And he never complains about my hair ties all over the house, my forgotten cold cup of tea as a permanent fixture on the kitchen table, or the contact lenses on the bathroom floor where I've blindly missed the bin.

We pick up each other's shortcomings.

His clangery is a small price to pay for all the good he brings into my life.

Haven't seen one another for 29 days, and we likely have another 15+ on the clock. Missing him, hence the soppiness.

So you're hiding upstairs while he does whatever
And he said you don't need to eat much?

He's stressed prob but can you say wtf I'm hungry I'm going to eat stop doing that for a bit for god's sake.

And if course everyone needs peach slices in syrup! I mean delicious. And if he's wanting to chuck out cans at the mo that's a bit weird tbh

I'm your husband. Sorry!
I would thrive in an empty house and having so much flippin stuff makes me crack about 4 times a year. So I go on a loud and ruthless cleaning spree which allows people to see space. WHICH THEY FEEL THE NEED TO OCCUPY.

We call it ‘banging and flinging’ in this house.

Sounds like me!

My husband dreads if I announce I am going to clean out the kitchen cupboards as I throw everything out.

Now hiding in the garden. I came downstairs and he ignored me in favour of Facebook.

I don't think I like him very much right now.

I'm learning that apparently you don't need to move things out of the way to clean. Simply wipe around the shape of the toaster, neatly leaving the crumbs nicely piled up underneath it. For years. Rather than, you know, just lifting it up to actually clean underneath.

Or will walk into a room full of toddler toys and mess, declare it a mess, and then proceed to deep clean and tidy a drawer that nobody can see the contents of anyway

That really tickled me.

@Wheresmytonic

Maybe post in Relationships?
It sounds like there may be deeper issues here than cleaning

Gah! Sorry just realised this is relationships. Maybe start a thread with the issues that are truly bothering you - it isn't just the cleaning is it?