Do I break up or try again?

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Hey just need some advice
So I met a guy May 2019 he's from France and I live in Northern Ireland we talked for two months calling and texting and then he came to meet me in July 2019 in Northern Ireland everything was great I then went to France September 2019 and met his family and stuff then he decided that we lived together so we moved into a flat in Northern Ireland October 2019 everything was nice and great but then in January 2020 he left to go back to France and we broke up from October to January he has been abusive he would hurt me throw things and get angry it's not all the time but sometimes I then saw him in France in February 2020 everything was okay then we decided to try our relationship again he came to see me in Northern Ireland and everything was good then we visited Dublin for an overnight stay sand he got really angry the worst I've seen him he hurt me and broke lots of my stuff so I decided we break up now he's messaging saying he wants to be together again and he wants to go to the doctor for help and he wants to change for the better we both say that everything was donee too soon and it was such a big change in a short time what do I do?

Tell him to leave you alone, block his number and never speak to him again. And then get some counselling to make sure you never, ever put up with such treatment again. Abusers don't stop abusing, no matter what promises they make.

Definite no. Doesn’t matter that it wasn’t all of the time. It should NEVER happen. Read ‘Why Does He Do That?’ and Women Who Love Too Much. Resist his promises. When push comes to shove, he will abuse you again. And remember that some abusers actually kill their partners. Block. Have nothing further to do with him. Far better to be single than with someone who believes it’s okay to treat you that.

Another nasty waster get rid and keep blocked.

No. Stay away from him.

You need to break the cycle of abuse.

What's your background like that you think it's ok for someone who's supposed to care for you to harm you?

If he wants to change that's good for him, but it will only work if he's doing it for himself not as a way to keep you.

How could you even ask that question? Look at the countless threads here of women trapped in awful relationships with people who slowly revealed themselves to be bastards. He had already shown you, twice, that he is a dangerously unstable man and you are not together. Please! Stay the fuck away from him forever.

I mean you’ve known him less than a year and have already been subjected to outbursts of violence and and destruction. That’s in the honeymoon phase. He sounds incredibly dangerous. What did you learn about relationships growing up to make you even consider taking him back? He has committed crimes against you and should be facing police charges. Please do some therapy such as the Freedom Programme and massively raise the bar on the treatment you are willing to accept in a relationship. You are worth so much more.

Why do you settle for so little, OP?

No. Block.

It should be a no brainer.

Cut all contact with him.
Block him.

And contact the police if he harasses you.