A question for those of you in a long distance relationship

[SmartyPants0]

We have been together for years and circumstances have meant we are not living together yet. How is everyone keeping connected and their relationship alive during lockdown if not living with their loved one.

I'm in a similar position -- just posted about it. I'm struggling a bit with it at the moment. My bf and I message back and forth and do zoom chats and a lot of online pub quizzes and we're getting through but without the physical closeness and intimacy it sort of feels like we're in a vacuum.

It's starting to make me feel an insecurity which was never there in the "real" world tbh.

Don't have any answers really but the consolation for me is that I'm actually glad we haven't been forced to live together in these circumstances which I think would feel like a bit of a trap. Can't think of anything worse than being holed up with someone 24/7 out of expediency and with no chance for independence and head space -- I think that would be the absolute death knell of a budding relationship. Small blessing but one to hold onto.

I know what you mean about suddenly feeling insecure, I've never felt that before.
This is the longest we have gone with out seeing each other and I think we both miss the physical side to our relationship. I know i could do with a hug right now.

We have been together for only 6 months but are quite solid despite the distance. We chat or message throughout the day and simultaneously watch stuff on TV in the evening. Both being pragmatic about it all but do really miss the physical contact. I'm not into sexting or anything like that...it just doesn't do it for me. We were both just saying tonight how we just miss the physical intimacy, not just sex but, cuddles in bed...just the presence of each other. But I'm confident we will be fine as we talk lots each day. If he was a non communicator, I'd struggle, grateful he isn't!

Snap! I want a cuddle so bad!

We’ve been messaging (he’s still working), WhatsApp calls, sending eachother silly stuff and tonight we did a quiz together on fb video.

I’m really missing the physical closeness but I do feel like we’re sharing more emotionally which is nice.

I know what you mean about the insecurity thing, the other night I woke really anxious that he was going to get bored and start talking to other people, or just realise he’s not that bothered without me, neither of which he has given me any reason to think, quite the opposite!

My kids are quarantined with me and he has his some of the time so privacy is an issue but we’re making do. We downloaded an app called spicer where you can answer silly/sexy questions, send dares etc so that’s been fun.

It has bought out his romantic side massively though - posted me a mix tape! ❤️

It’s hard to be apart but we’ve got this girls, just think of the snuggles when we’re free! X

This is me. It’s only been long distance since a week before lockdown too. I’m finding it very hard but I think it’s making us closer.

Hi all - we are in a LDR and have been for 3 years.. miss him so much but we are doing things like watching films together on FaceTime (when our kids are at their other parent’s ) and we are just trying to get through it calmly. Not sure what we will do if it gets extended for 6 weeks . He was saying he wants to move in with me and my kids and his kids can come and go to him, but the distance is pretty huge so not sure it would work, plus my ex is being difficult about it .. it has made us determined to sort our living arrangements after this !!! But still, i wouldn’t want either of us to have the strain of being away from our kids for weeks (nor all of us living together in lockdown either - 6 teenagers between us !!) so, am accepting I guess !

www.college.police.uk/What-we-do/COVID-19/Documents/What-constitutes-a-reasonable-excuse.pdf

Does this change anything for us? Dp wants to move in with me for this lockdown ..would he be allowed if stopped on journey ?