First date, being picked up from home?

[RaceToMe]

I’ve been talking to someone for 3 weeks now, not met and obviously not going to until lockdown has ended. We’ve been talking about going on a date when we can and be mentioned picking me up from home.

I know where he lives (he sent me a photo related to something we were taking about), he doesn’t know where I live apart from the name of the village I’m in. I know his surname. He lives with family still, as do I.

If it was someone I’d met in normal times I’d not want them to pick me up from home the first time I met them. But we wouldn’t have talked for as long then, could be another month or more before we get a chance to meet.

Would you always suggest meeting somewhere public first time? He knows I live with family so people would be around if he did pick me up.

I’ve got time to think about this whilst not being able to go out so would appreciate other thoughts please.

No meet somewhere public

Glad you’ve decided to meet him somewhere public. Definitely do not give him your address for pick up on first date. Safety first.

No, I wouldn't do that.

I want to be firmer with what happens with any dates etc in future, though it is hard. For instance, some of them want to stay overnight fairly early on- I'm not going to let them do that again. Just not something I'm comfortable with until later.

Absolutely not. I once met a man through friends who seemed lovely and normal, until I rejected him for sex and he turned into a complete psychopathic stalker and I had to get the police involved to make him stop. If he’d known my address, I think I’d have been in serious danger.

And I agree with @NoMoreDickheads. My boundaries are pretty good but could be better. I’ve mostly put myself first in the past but still not consistently enough.

One word - No!