Help! Long distance sex by Skype

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A little embarrassed, but need some tips.... Due to lockdown I haven't been able to see my partner, we talk or facetime every day.
We decided to have a virtual date night via skype and I want to spice things up a bit, but I'm very very body conscious as I'm overweight..... IRL when we are together, I can kind of hide under covers etc. But want this to be a bit saucy and fun. Any ideas? I have none

Anyone?

Let it all hang out, a bit at a time.

Just wear something cleavage enhancing and do your hair and makeup

Just ooze confidence. I know you feel self concious but with you not being together let your imagination run wild.

Do you have sexy underwear or outfits you can use? Soft dim lighting. Relaxing music. Lube
Have a glass or bottle of wine to hand

And literally just talk about all the things you want to do to each other!!

How long have you been together and can you be sure he won’t record anything, which might come back to bite you later? I can understand that you miss each other, but be careful.

Thankyou for your comments.... I wish i felt comfortable enough to let it all hang out, but i have huge hangy boobs and my stomach flops over my vagina I'm so embarrassed, i think I'll have to get a bit tipsy first!

Do you really want to do this. How secure is it and how long have you known him?

We've been together for 6 months, absolutely positive nothing sinister would happen.... Longstanding friend / colleague of lots of people i know too.

I really do want to do it... Just in a way that won't show my flab

Please be very, very careful about doing this. You really don’t know how ‘secure’ any recorded images are .... countless women (& probably some men) have had their images splashed all over the Internet after the relationship ends (or even before).

“A colleague of lots of people you know” ... imagine the possible future embarrassment.

He is with you because he finds you attractive, it does not matter what you see in the mirror he would not be with you if you were ugly.

Have confidence in yourself and use your positives. Do you have any sexy underwear, tights and heels that you can put on? You don't have to get completely naked. Sitting down is not very flattering so could you stand up or lie down somehow? You could even remove one piece of clothing per day which might help you with your confidence and give him something to dream about all day!

Thankyou for your concern, I truly know where you're coming from, what I mean is that he's a close friend of some of my close friends, also a colleague to others... He's not suggested this, it was my idea and I do trust him.

I wouldn't do this sorry, too risky!

I couldn’t but could probably do phone sex easier as it’s all mental... but I’d be embarrassed to do it via Skype. Let’s face it, most mere mortals don’t look great naked- even the actresses and actors have good lighting and makeup
I’d need a body double!!!

he's a close friend of some of my close friends, also a colleague to others then he can embarrass you hugely if he chooses. If you trust someone with naked pictures after 6 months.... You need a head wobble!

I'm not planning on being totally naked.... Just something to spice things up a bit whilst we're apart

Looking for ideas I mean...

Yeah just do phone sex

Too risky and you're not comfortable anyway... phone sex only

I wouldn’t do this. Too much risk of being videoed

I think you're mad. He will screenshot you at the very least.

Hi, I have a long distance relationship - a new one - with someone I've only met IRL once.

We have amazing phone sex now. Describing in detail what we'd like to be doing to each other. And exploring more, and telling each other what we'd like as we got more confidant.

For visuals, I've sent very careful non identifying photos of interesting bits of myself in nice lingerie, it works well for us both. Non identifying with no face, or furniture, or any background at all. Just in case. In case of whatever.

We decided that real life visuals wouldn't be as good as imagination, voices and a little toy for me.

Enjoy, OP, however you do it,

Does it have to be on camera? You could do the sexy bit via phone. Might make you feel less self conscious

I second phone sex

Can you start with phone sex? I like it way better than video sex anyway. (Have you seen "The Truth about Cats and Dogs"? It's a romcom with a phone sex sequence, from memory they take a bath together, it's all very sweet. They get tipsy together over the phone IIRC.) If he refuses to start with phone sex or you feel pestered for video I would have a rethink about the relationship.