Is this immature?

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My boyfriend of a year broke up with me. A few weeks later he asked to be friends but after trying I just couldn’t do it. I explained to him and said I would need to block him on everything which I’ve done.

I’m just wondering was this immature to do? I think it actually helped me a lot to move on and it’s been a few months now. The pain isn’t as raw. But I wonder if blocking him on everything including WhatsApp was an immature reaction? I think he thought it was.

No, it's sensible to have a clean break. You tried "being friends" and it didn't work for you.

It's easier (and conscience-salving) to be the one saying "let's still be friends" when you're the one who instigates the break-up, but it's not always healthy (or mature).

I blocked my now exh on what's app etc as it helped to move on, so no I don't think its immature at all. It was sensible to protect my mental health

You made the decision so stick with it, sounds like you want an excuse to unblock now?? Personally I think blocking/unblocking is more immature.

As in blocking then unblocking, just seems like attention seeking

It's not immature.

No, that's boundaries. You don't have to be friends with someone if you don't want to.

You blocked him because you put yourself first after he ended it. Be kind to yourself and leave him where you put him.

It’s the opposite of immature. You decided on your boundaries and you stuck to them.

Who cares what he thinks?

Not immature
I block all my exes

Ah he has lots on there who are still his friends so I wondered.

But I wonder if blocking him on everything including WhatsApp was an immature reaction?

Of course it wasn’t, I think wanting to stay friends with someone you dumped is selfish. Some men get off on having a back catalogue of Ex’s as friends, a sort of ‘we aren’t together but they still all want a piece of me’ type of pat on the back, urgh.

Blocking him on everything couldn't be more mature. You're saying it's not OK to treat you badly. That's the mature thing to do. Please keep him blocked.

Yes I will. I definitely think for my own pride I would not unblock him or get back in touch. And it has definitely helped me feel better compared to constantly seeing what he was up to or when he was on WhatsApp and wondering why.

I block unknown numbers or people who harass me
As for ex's: I just don't seek them out anymore.

It doesn't actually matter what he might think OP. There's no obligation to 'be friends' after a breakup, it's very normal and part of life for relationships to not work out, moving forward separately is just as mature and positive if that has been beneficial for you, then I would stick to it.

Certainly doesn't make someone a better or bigger person if they are still friends with their ex's. At all. If there is no need to be in touch just keep him blocked and forget him.

“Blocking him on everything couldn't be more mature. You're saying it's not OK to treat you badly. That's the mature thing to do. Please keep him blocked.”

This.

Well done, OP. You clearly value yourself and have excellent boundaries. Good for you.