Do you see your DH/DP in a different light since lockdown?

[BrandyandBabycham]

My experience is, thank goodness, a positive one. DH has really kept me going through all this. We have our moments, as he usually works very long hours so DD11 & I aren’t used to seeing him as much, but mainly he’s a rock. And his relationship with DD is definitely stronger. He will google things that she would like to do eg he found a “ making traditional toys” website & we ended up having paper caterpillar races, blowing them along with drinking straws. We were all in stitches! He’s cooking/baking more & made a superb chicken leek & ham pie the other day & some of the nicest wholemeal bread I’ve ever tasted. If this lockdown had happened a few years ago, I’m pretty sure we would have divorced, but this situation brings it home to me anew how much DH has changed & how much he loves his family ❤️

Thought this would be a popular thread - anyone out there?

The relationships forum on MN is not full of happy people and most people who praise their male partners usually get slapped down for it or ignored so you won't get many replies.

For the record my DP has behaved as I would have expected in this crisis; loving, caring and supportive.

I also have a good strong relationship that's been a pure joy during this time, but the lack of drama makes it uninteresting reading on MN!

It's helped me realise he doesn't flirt with colleagues like I thought he did, with him working from home. Or maybe he's behaving because he's at home 😂

I agree completely.

I told my husband he really was my hero last night.

He's holding this together for us. I'm frightened due to very poor health. We have a house full of clueless teenagers that we are trying to keep safe and happy.

I'd somehow managed to delete an imminent online shopping slot for food for six of us.

He'd jumped onto his laptop and found an alternative slot in a different supermarket 20 miles away. He did the order and drove to get it.

He's so calm and happy.

Today he's finishing off a home made greenhouse for my seedlings.

@BrandyandBabycham There's a thread 'what would you like to say to your DH/DP in lockdown but can't?' Which is very popular.

There are a few sisters making positive comments, but a lot of women are in hell/not happy.

I thought he was avoiding the DIY projects at home and using work as an excuse.
It turns out work was actually the problem because he’s plumbed in a toilet, fixed the kitchen bench, washed the weatherboard outside on the house, painted an external wall and more since being at home.

I think mines a machine than human. I don't know how he does his job and still come home and do school work with the teenager. He's pretty mint

Not exactly a different light, but reading some of the stuff on here makes me appreciate him all the more.

I really thought this would be the death of us. We have however, had the best time. This has completely changed my view on my DH and we have all had so so much fun (DD2 and 10months).

Mine is cooking daily!!

I have found that I can spend an unlimited amount of time with DH and still love him.

We potter round doing our own things and actually spend only a small amount of time really talking but I’m just very happy in his company.

He's been slightly more productive than normal I'd say

My dp’s life is exactly the same as before!

That’s why I find him so frustrating- life with him is a life in lockdown. He never has any desire to go anywhere, do anything, experience anything new, socialise. Life is just the same every day.

We’re both WFH and sharing an office. I’ve learned that he’s very sexy when he’s working It’s the way he stretches back in his chair with his pen in his mouth when on long conference calls.

Apart from that, I don’t think I’ve learned anything new, it’s just reaffirmed that we’re a good team and we get along so well and genuinely like each other.

Mine is really enjoying not having to socialise and it has reassured him that being retired will be fine (late 50s now). It's like living with a butler with many cups of tea.

It really helps that we can both work from home and have a garden to sit in.

Thought we might kill each other because we both work a lot so we are not used to this amount of time together but it’s actually been lovely and I think he’s started to appreciate how much I do with my DD.

We’ve baked, done an exercise video and gone for a run every day, we’ve had more sex (out of the sheer boredom of it all), we’ve made weird and wonderful recipes, had cocktail nights and watched far too much television.

It’s been really nice in that respect.

@NorthernLass75 - I hear you re sexiness whilst working. I’ve insisted he wears his suit on occasion, does strange things to me!

I see my DH in the same light as always - kind and dependable.

This is a really nice thread 😊 I can’t add to it as I don’t live my boyfriend, struggling with loneliness despite 3 teens and boyfriend being deeply matter of fact and unsympathetic (his way of coping). But genuinely lovely to read about the good and the positive to come out of this horrible situation